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7 Things (Besides Love) That A Relationship Must Have

Relationships are a vexing thing, whether you're in high school starting to date or even a senior. It is difficult if not impossible to perfectly understand and balance every aspect of being with someone else, which makes so many of these tips so useful.

But if you can figure out a way to truly meld and be in love with another human being, that is something to make you smile.

It's something to celebrate.

A true love is unlike anything else that happens in our world, and following these tips that we lay out below will help you achieve a state of harmony that many people simply cannot.

We hope that what you take away will help improve your current or next relationship, and that your life is filled with all of the love you can stand.

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1. Respect

Respect is the foundation for every relationship. It is the first requirement before you even go out on a date with someone.

If, for example, a man simply doesn't respect women, then he's automatically setting the relationship up for failure. No woman should be with a man who doesn't respect women. It's a two-way street.

If a woman doesn't respect the man she's with, then there's no way the relationship will work for any length of time.

Before you've even so much as swiped right on a potential Tinder date, you need to be equipped with the knowledge of how to properly respect the human beings who occupy this planet with you.

Along with respect comes kindness, compassion, and understanding. Without respect, your budding relationship won't ever amount to anything.

Treat respect as the foundation upon which a sturdy relationship is built.

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2. Communication

While respect is the brick and mortar of the relationship itself, communication is key to determining whether or not the person you're with is the right person.

Our society has broken out of old social norms that dominated western culture for centuries. Today, men and women both get to decide what kind of relationship they want to have.

No one has to settle for anything! It's a beautiful thing.

But in order to attract the right person to you, you need to be able to communicate the things you need out of your relationship.

As the relationship proceeds, you need to be able to communicate the things you like, the things you don't like, where you'd like to see things improve, what makes you happy, etc.

Sometimes couples don't communicate because they fear having tougher conversations, and almost universally, those relationships are doomed to fail.

You need to trust the person you're with will be open to listening to what you have to say.

3. Fun

So we've got respect and communication down. The relationship is well on its way. You've maybe moved in together at this point and you've fallen into a routine.

Especially for younger couples, routine can be a death note for a relationship.

Couples stop going on dates, they stop going on adventures, they start getting bored, and this is where problems really start to arise.

The honeymoon phase doesn't usually last forever. Eventually things will start to feel a little dull.

If you've got an open line of communication, you'll be able to talk to your partner about these things, to suggest new ideas, new adventures, new dates.

Keep your relationship fresh, funky, and fun, and it'll keep plugging along into your golden years.

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4. Honesty

Honesty is one of the toughest things in a relationship, because some of the things you'll need to be honest about will hurt.

The things your partner does will almost always impact you, and when it impacts you negatively, you need to be able to communicate about it openly and honestly.

It might hurt your partner to hear some of those things, but it's important nonetheless.

And without honesty, any rifts that might open up in your relationship due to behavior that isn't agreed upon by both parties (more on that later) can't be mended, and old wounds can't be healed.

So be willing to fully commit yourself to honesty, clear communication, and absolute openness.

5. Common Values

What kinds of values your budding relationship, and family, have is something that needs to be agreed upon.

You don't always have to see eye to eye on every little issue. You don't have to be the same religion, the same political affiliation, or agree on much of anything.

But what you do need are common values.

You need to have it hashed out how you plan to raise your kids if you have any, how you treat the world you live in, and just what your values are in general.

Common values will help you smoothly traverse every obstacle your relationship might experience.

If you don't have the same values, if your beliefs don't line up in a way that's important for you, then the relationship probably won't work out.

It's best to face that now before you're more involved in it and the problems really start getting rough.

6. Goals

Every relationship needs goals, but don't misunderstand me.

Your goals don't have to be huge. Your partner doesn't need to have goals like being an underwater heart surgeon.

You don't have to get your master's degree in dog psychology. Goals doesn't mean 'extreme goals.'

It just means goals. Your goals could be to manage a small gas station franchise until you are ready to retire, or travel around the world in a retrofitted school bus.

It doesn't really matter what your goals are, just establish them. Make them clear.

You don't want to be a couple without any goals and find yourself drifting aimlessly when you get into your second decade of being together.

Be open and clear about what it is that you want in your life and in your relationship.

If your goals don't match up with your partner's, then it may be time to rethink the nature of your relationship as a whole.

7. Agreed Upon Terms

Nothing wrecks a relationship faster than two people who aren't willing to set terms, limits, and boundaries with each other.

I know, it sounds super rigid and lame, but these things are important.

You don't want to get into an aimless, termless relationship with someone only to find that they won't meet you halfway on things that are important to you.

Establish what you want. Make it clear how you want chores and labor to be divided.

Make it known what responsibilities will be handled by whom.

Agree on a set of terms so, if one person tries to back out, you can go back to discussing the original terms and what you agreed upon already.

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Why Some People See Ghosts While Others Don’t, According To Science

You would be surprised at how many people report sightings and apparitions of ghosts. However, some people are more prone to make these reports than others. For example, some studies show that almost half of widowed elderly Americans see a hallucination of their departed spouse. So are they are real or they just hallucinations we dream of during emotionally intense periods?

That's a hard question to answer because the definition of seeing ghosts can depend on the person. If we a define it as "sensing a presence" then it can be as simply as just feeling rather than actually "seeing." Thsi can happen in all kinds of states like when you're awake, or asleep, and when you're grieving or just focused enough to notice. In all cases, science can now explains why ghosts can be seen by some people, and not others.

The Fear Of Ghosts Itself

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Some people are scared of the paranormal. It's not necessarily the ghosts themselves that make them feel uneasy, but the meeting of the unknown and the possibility of something they don't understand that defies the laws of nature as they've come to understand it. For that reason, these people don't particularly enjoy darkness, thunderstorms, or horror stories. However, the brain is funny that way. It's possible that it's the fear itself that tricks the mind into interpreting certain events as "paranormal.' This could be because the mind is already oriented towards that risk. Think of it like when you go do a presentation and work yourself up so you forget all your lines.

On the other hand, those who don't give much thought to ghosts, aren't opening themselves up to the possibility of seeing them. So chances are, even if ghosts are real and have shown themselves to them, these people likely brushed it off with a more rational explanation.

Inability To Breath Properly

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​We take our ability to let the breath in and back out naturally for granted. However, when you actually bring awareness to the breath you can control its speed which can have good or harmful effects on your mind and body. For some people, breathing is actually harder because their brains don't get enough oxygen to operate properly. This could be developed with habits like smoking which is known as cerebral anoxia.

When the brain is deprived of oxygen it can start to play tricks on the mind. It'll see things that aren't there or hear voices that aren't present. These hallucinations can feel like out-of-body experiences and mimick ghost sightings and other paranormal activity.

Being Exposed To Carbon Monoxide Poisoning

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Usually, paranormal sightings are accompanied by physical systems like dizziness, nausea, and shortness of breath. Do you know what else causes these symptoms? Carbon monoxide poisoning. So when people report that their house is haunted, they probably should also double-check that their monoxide detector is working well.

This odorless gas often goes undetected despite sometimes having fatal repercussions. People who have been infected by the poisoning are more prone to hallucinations that make them believe in ghosts.

High Stress Situations

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A study tried to find the differences between people who have never had a paranormal experience and those who have. They found that supernatural experiences most likely happened in threatening or ambiguous environments. This means that stress was often a factor and the more in danger a person felt, the more likely they were to "see ghosts."

For example sailors, mountain climbers, and polar explorers often come home with vivid stories of ghosts following them, living in abandoned ships, or sending them rescuers. These people were often in life or death situations that amplified their sense of a paranormal presence

Inability To Sleep Properly

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One of the easiest ways to start losing your mind and ability to tell reality from distortion is by losing enough sleep. Eventually, insomnia takes over the sleep-deprived mind to play all kinds of tricks. Sleep is vital for a sharp mind and alert sensations.

The less sleep they have the more likely a person is to lose their sense of reality and get lost in a world they deem paranormal. Maybe this is the only time they're able to let go of the conditioning that prevents them from seeing ghosts. Maybe that's why children have an easier time seeing them and then grow out of it. Or maybe these people just need more sleep.

Being Surrounded By Technology

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In today's day and age, it's almost impossible to escape technology. We're surrounded by electrical appliances, televisions, phones, even if they aren't our own. To operate, these technologies create strong electromagnetic fields around them. Studies have shown that these electromagnetic fields interfere with our biological setup such as the electromagnetic field which our minds create.

Some people are more impacted and exposed to these effects, making them more prone to conjuring up ghosts. Keep in mind, that often reports of ghost sightings tell stories of ghosts who disrupt these fields such as by randomly turning on the tv or increasing the volume on the radio on their own

Living In Isolation Or Unusual Circumstances

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Similarly as when experiencing high levels of stress people who have become isolated in an extreme or found themselves in unusual environments were more likely to "see ghosts" This is probably due to their need to feel like someone or something else was also with them as a coping mechanism.

Usually, they can't describe the experience in detail but out's more of a vague feeling they remember like someone was watching them. ,

Looking Inwards

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A study proposed that we spend a lot of time processing the sensations from the world around us. But when we encounter a sensation that we're unprepared to process, like extreme loneliness or survival, we start to look inwards. This means that our greatest perception ability is the one we find in ourselves. If you're looking for more information on how you experience the world around you specifically, then you'll need your own zodiac reading

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