7 Things (Besides Love) That A Relationship Must Have
Relationships are a vexing thing, whether you’re in high school starting to date or even a senior. It is difficult if not impossible to perfectly understand and balance every aspect of being with someone else, which makes so many of these tips so useful.
But if you can figure out a way to truly meld and be in love with another human being, that is something to make you smile.
It’s something to celebrate.
A true love is unlike anything else that happens in our world, and following these tips that we lay out below will help you achieve a state of harmony that many people simply cannot.
We hope that what you take away will help improve your current or next relationship, and that your life is filled with all of the love you can stand.
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Respect is the foundation for every relationship. It is the first requirement before you even go out on a date with someone.
If, for example, a man simply doesn’t respect women, then he’s automatically setting the relationship up for failure. No woman should be with a man who doesn’t respect women. It’s a two-way street.
If a woman doesn’t respect the man she’s with, then there’s no way the relationship will work for any length of time.
Before you’ve even so much as swiped right on a potential Tinder date, you need to be equipped with the knowledge of how to properly respect the human beings who occupy this planet with you.
Along with respect comes kindness, compassion, and understanding. Without respect, your budding relationship won’t ever amount to anything.
Treat respect as the foundation upon which a sturdy relationship is built.
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While respect is the brick and mortar of the relationship itself, communication is key to determining whether or not the person you’re with is the right person.
Our society has broken out of old social norms that dominated western culture for centuries. Today, men and women both get to decide what kind of relationship they want to have.
No one has to settle for anything! It’s a beautiful thing.
But in order to attract the right person to you, you need to be able to communicate the things you need out of your relationship.
As the relationship proceeds, you need to be able to communicate the things you like, the things you don’t like, where you’d like to see things improve, what makes you happy, etc.
Sometimes couples don’t communicate because they fear having tougher conversations, and almost universally, those relationships are doomed to fail.
You need to trust the person you’re with will be open to listening to what you have to say.
So we’ve got respect and communication down. The relationship is well on its way. You’ve maybe moved in together at this point and you’ve fallen into a routine.
Especially for younger couples, routine can be a death note for a relationship.
Couples stop going on dates, they stop going on adventures, they start getting bored, and this is where problems really start to arise.
The honeymoon phase doesn’t usually last forever. Eventually things will start to feel a little dull.
If you’ve got an open line of communication, you’ll be able to talk to your partner about these things, to suggest new ideas, new adventures, new dates.
Keep your relationship fresh, funky, and fun, and it’ll keep plugging along into your golden years.
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Honesty is one of the toughest things in a relationship, because some of the things you’ll need to be honest about will hurt.
The things your partner does will almost always impact you, and when it impacts you negatively, you need to be able to communicate about it openly and honestly.
It might hurt your partner to hear some of those things, but it’s important nonetheless.
And without honesty, any rifts that might open up in your relationship due to behavior that isn’t agreed upon by both parties (more on that later) can’t be mended, and old wounds can’t be healed.
So be willing to fully commit yourself to honesty, clear communication, and absolute openness.
5. Common Values
What kinds of values your budding relationship, and family, have is something that needs to be agreed upon.
You don’t always have to see eye to eye on every little issue. You don’t have to be the same religion, the same political affiliation, or agree on much of anything.
But what you do need are common values.
You need to have it hashed out how you plan to raise your kids if you have any, how you treat the world you live in, and just what your values are in general.
Common values will help you smoothly traverse every obstacle your relationship might experience.
If you don’t have the same values, if your beliefs don’t line up in a way that’s important for you, then the relationship probably won’t work out.
It’s best to face that now before you’re more involved in it and the problems really start getting rough.
Every relationship needs goals, but don’t misunderstand me.
Your goals don’t have to be huge. Your partner doesn’t need to have goals like being an underwater heart surgeon.
You don’t have to get your master’s degree in dog psychology. Goals doesn’t mean ‘extreme goals.’
It just means goals. Your goals could be to manage a small gas station franchise until you are ready to retire, or travel around the world in a retrofitted school bus.
It doesn’t really matter what your goals are, just establish them. Make them clear.
You don’t want to be a couple without any goals and find yourself drifting aimlessly when you get into your second decade of being together.
Be open and clear about what it is that you want in your life and in your relationship.
If your goals don’t match up with your partner’s, then it may be time to rethink the nature of your relationship as a whole.
7. Agreed Upon Terms
Nothing wrecks a relationship faster than two people who aren’t willing to set terms, limits, and boundaries with each other.
I know, it sounds super rigid and lame, but these things are important.
You don’t want to get into an aimless, termless relationship with someone only to find that they won’t meet you halfway on things that are important to you.
Establish what you want. Make it clear how you want chores and labor to be divided.
Make it known what responsibilities will be handled by whom.
Agree on a set of terms so, if one person tries to back out, you can go back to discussing the original terms and what you agreed upon already.
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