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6 Subtle Signs Someone Is Gaslighting You

You've probably heard the term "gaslighting" before and know it's a major red flag in a relationship. Maybe you think you would know if someone was treating you that way and wouldn't tolerate it. But it can actually be really hard to recognize when someone is gaslighting you. Gaslighting is extremely manipulative and creates an environment in which the victim does not trust their own judgement.

Beyond that, the signs that someone is gaslighting you may be subtle and start slowly. So, what can you do to make sure that you're not being gaslighted and manipulated? Avoid being in a toxic relationship and learn the red flags of gaslighting.

Here are 6 subtle signs that someone is gaslighting you:

1. They belittle your achievements.

They don't get excited for your achievements or accomplishments. They act unimpressed and make you feel bad about being excited.

Maybe you get a promotion at work or a raise and come home excited to share the news only to be met with negativity and disgust. They might say things like, "Oh, I thought you would've been in that position years ago," or "It's about time you got a raise, maybe you can start carrying your weight a little more around here."

When you're proud of something, they flip the situation to try and make you feel bad for it.

If this is happening to you, please channel your inner Alpha woman and move on from the relationship.

2. They're always right.

They're always right, and you're always wrong. Period.

It doesn't matter if you're washing dishes the "wrong" way or remembering details from an argument, you'll never be right around them (even if you are).

They try to make you feel bad about wrong, like you're less of a person than them for doing things differently. And if you argue with them about being right? They'll guilt you for it and act like you're being mean and a "monster."

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3. They don't support your happiness.

When you're in a good mood, they do something or say something to bring you down. They create an environment that fosters negativity, sadness, loneliness, and self-doubt. You may feel happy when you're away from that, but as soon as you get back to them, your mood drops.

Being with someone like this is like the opposite of being with your soulmate. Don't let them steal your happiness any longer.

4. They attack your decisions.

They second-guess every decision you make and make you feel stupid about it. They may angle it in a way that's seemingly from a place of positive intent. They may even act like they're second-guessing you for your best interest.

They want you to rely on them and not trust yourself at all. If you spend too much time with someone like this, you may start to second-guess your own decisions and question everything that you do.

5. They judge everything you do.

Everything you do and say is met with judgement and negativity. After all, you can't do anything right in their eyes and they're constantly judging you for it.

6. They think they can validate you.

They work hard to get you to a place where you feel like you need them to validate you. You don't trust yourself and may feel like you can't do anything right. Your own partner doesn't trust you to do anything right, why should you trust yourself?

Since they're always correcting you and questioning your every move, you start to take your decisions and thoughts directly to them. Instead of checking in with yourself and validating yourself, you check in with them and seek their approval and validation.

They make sure the control is in their hands.

Breaking free from gaslighting.

Your self-esteem may take a huge hit if you're in a partnership with someone who's gaslighting you for too long. This relationship dynamic can cause a lot of emotional scarring and trauma.

The best thing to do if you're in a relationship and being gaslighted is to gracefully remove yourself from that situation. Recognizing the unhealthy patterns is the first step to breaking free from gaslighting.

Don't be afraid to reach out to friends or family for support. While you may be conditioned to go through your partner for everything, it's important to get a 3rd party involved to support you so your partner can't manipulate you as easily as you exit the relationship.

It can be hard to break free, but it's so much better to be single than in a relationship with the wrong person.

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8 Red Flags That You’re In A One-Sided Relationship

Relationships take work, but they are so worth the effort with the right person. But if you're in a relationship with the wrong person, putting in the work may be a lost cause and only create heartache for you. There are many reasons why being single is better than being with the wrong person.

You may know you'd prefer to be single than spend time with someone who doesn't value you, but it can be hard to know if your relationship is experiencing normal and healthy hiccups, or if you're with someone who isn't meeting you halfway.

One-sided relationships can be soul-crushing and heartbreaking, but so hard to recognize without taking a deep, hard look at the relationship.

Recognizing the red flags of a one-sided relationship will help you more easily identify if you're in that situation to get out sooner. Here are 8 warning signs you're in a one-sided relationship:

1. They wish you were different.

They "love" you, but they wish you would change. They "care" about you, but there's a lot they wish were different.

They may express their desire for you to change openly, saying things like, "I wish you were like her," or, "Why don't you act this way?"

Or they may hint at their desire for you to change by saying things like, "They do it this way, why can't you?"

They may do things like buy you gifts that don't make sense to you (but make sense to the person they want you to be). For example, they may get you workout clothes when you don't workout because they wish you would workout. Or they may get you an elegant diamond necklace when you'd prefer a simple hemp choker because they wish you were more elegant.

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2. They don't connect with you when you're together.

They're distracted when you spend time together. They may be on their phone or lost in their own thoughts, but they're not fully present with you.

They rarely spend quality time with you and you struggle to connect with them on an emotional level.

3. They exclude you from decision making.

They make decisions for themselves, without consulting you. Even big life decisions, like taking a job in a new town, are made without you. You're simply told after the fact.

Of course, relying on a partner to make decisions can create a codependent and toxic relationship, but when you're in a partnership, it's important to discuss major moves with your partner and value their opinions and perspective.

4. They don't work to communicate.

They don't put an effort into communicating clearly or effectively, even when you do. You may feel like you're constantly working to communicate better and they're just not meeting you halfway.

They may even voice that they don't see a problem with the current communication and get annoyed when you try to better it.

5. They're disrespectful.

They talk about other people in a way that should be reserved for you. When they're out with friends, they may pretend you don't exist and act single. They may say things about other people they find attractive that hurts your feelings, and they don't seem to care. Friends and strangers alike may be unsure of your relationships status based on the way they talk about you or others.

6. They don't support your dreams and goals.

They put you down for wanting to achieve big things in life. They refuse to support your goals and don't believe that you can achieve much. They make you feel silly for wanting to do certain things or get upset if your goals interfere with their own.

7. They're secretive.

They hide their phone from you and are secretive about things. They try to keep you out of their business and don't share much with you about their work life, friends, or thoughts.

8. They make you feel guilty.

They question you and may accuse you of cheating, lying, or keeping secrets. They may make you feel guilty for wanting anything in the relationship, like better communication or to be included in major decision making.

You can have more.

Strong men and strong women don't tolerate this in relationships and you shouldn't either. It's hard, but so worth it to exit a partnership with the wrong person and wait until you meet your soulmate.

Be mindful that you're not putting in all the effort and living with a one-sided relationship. And remember, while these warning signs are a good place to evaluate from, every relationship is different and an unhealthy or one-sided relationship could look different for you and your partner.

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5 Subtle Habits Of People Who Conceal Their Depression

Recognizing depression in your loved ones or even in yourself can be a turning point for those struggling who need help. Sometimes depression isn't obvious. You might imagine someone with depression laying in bed, unable to move or get up to go to work or eat. They might struggle to take care of themselves on the most basic level. Severe depression can certainly look that way. But it can also appear in a lot subtler ways.

Some people who struggle with depression conceal or mask their depression and it can be hard to pick up on the warning signs unless you know what to look for. Here are 5 signs that someone is struggling with depression - and is good at masking it.

1. They display deep empathy.

People who mask their depression often express their hurt through the hurt of others. They express and display deep empathy.

If you're feeling broken and empty, they'll be by your side emphasizing and listening. If a tragedy occurs to someone else, they might take on that tragedy as their own and feel the pain as if it were happening to them.

They may try and mask their own feelings and emotions, but they allow themselves to live these things through others while pretending their own lives are absolutely fine.

2. They spend most of their time alone.

People with depression are known to spend time alone. You might picture them in a dark bedroom, alone, doing absolutely nothing.

It's not always obvious that excessive alone time is a sign of depression though.

People who mask their depression may still spend most of their time alone and they may or may not lie about what they're doing in that alone time. Sometimes they'll say they were busy on a hobby or craft, working or cleaning, doing productive things with their time. Other times they'll avoid talking about their time and try to steer the conversation in a different direction completely.

They may cancel plans to hangout with friends and family on a regular basis, usually making up excuses as to why.

Pay close attention if you notice a loved one spending excessive amounts of time alone.

3. They sometimes appear overly happy.

People struggling with depression and working to mask it will often overcompensate with their emotions. They may appear overly (and abnormally) happy. They work hard to appear positive and make others laugh. They might be full of jokes and kind words of encouragement.

Sometimes the people struggling the most are the people you'd expect it from the least because of this tendency to overcompensate.

If you know someone who's always happy and never seems to struggle, they may be secretly struggling with depression.

4. They have inconsistent sleeping and eating patterns.

They might sleep a lot, sometimes during the day and sometimes during the night. Their sleep patterns may be erratic and inconsistent. It's not uncommon for people with depression to take long naps or struggle with insomnia (or both).

They also might have strange eating patterns, sometimes skipping meals and hardly eating and other times eating a significant amount in a short period of time.

Regular and consistent eating and sleeping patterns are important for both mental and physical health. Someone struggling with depression may not be able to care for themselves on this basic level and it may affect all areas of their lives.

Pay close attention if someone you know is sleeping strange, inconsistent hours and struggling to eat (or binging on food).

5. They stop doing things they used to enjoy.

Depression takes the joy out of life and people with depression will eventually stop doing the things and activities they once enjoyed.

They'll pull away from their favorite hobbies and pastimes and may start to act like they don't enjoy them anymore.

While it can be normal and healthy to find new activities and hobbies to enjoy while finding the old ones less fun, it may be a sign of depression if someone stops all activities together.

If they don't replace their excitement for one activity with another, and just lose that enthusiasm completely, it may be a sign they have a depression and are trying to hide it.

What can you do?

Recognizing the signs of depression in a loved one is the first step. Once you're concerned they may be struggling with depression, it's time to reach out and talk with them.

It's ok to voice your concern and ask if you can help them schedule an appointment to see a general practitioner or therapist for further help.

Depression is treatable and no one should have to live with it for long. Speaking up about your concerns and love for the person may be the difference between them seeking help and living with that burden for another day.

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8 Ways You Can Express Your Unconditional Love With Your Partner

Sometimes when you're in a relationship or partnership with someone you love, it can be hard to express your love for them in a way that they'll recognize. After all, everyone has unique love languages, traits, language, and expectations surrounding how to show and receive love. When you love someone deeply and unconditionally, it's important to show them that love in a way that's meaningful and recognizable to them.

And while it may seem like showing love should come naturally, it's actually an art that can be practiced and perfected. Here are 8 ways you can express your love to your partner:

1. Grow through your disagreements.

Every couple goes through disagreements and arguments. It's normal and can be healthy when done properly. Believe it or not, you can actually express your love to your partner through these disagreements and arguments.

Learning to fight better is a powerful way to express your love. Rather than allow the arguments to pull you apart, use them to learn more about your partner and grow together as a couple through the experience. Take every disagreement as a learning opportunity to strengthen your relationship and your partner will feel your love through it.

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2. Learn their love language and speak it often.

Every person feels and expresses love differently, but there are 5 primary "love languages" that people lean towards in expressing and feeling love. Discovering which love language your partner has is key to ensuring they truly feel your love on a regular basis.

Once you know what love language they have, make an effort to speak to them in that language. Here are some ways to express love for each of the love languages:

Acts of Service: Do chores, errands, and tasks for them that they may not want to do themselves.

Physical Touch: Give them a rub on the back, a pat on the shoulder, or a nuzzle on the neck in passing.

Quality Time: Make a date for just the two of you to spend time together. Leave your phone at home and focus on being fully present.

Gifts: Grab them a little gift on your way home from the store. Surprise them randomly with something you know they'd love. It doesn't have to be their birthday or Christmas to give gifts and express your love.

Words of Affirmation: Remind them daily how beautiful or kind they are, how great they look, how much you love them. Speak kind words and compliments of your love and they'll hear you on a deep level.

3. Be painfully honest.

Speak your truth and hold space for them to speak their truth. Creating a painfully honest environment allows you to speak the truths of your heart, including your unconditional love. And with such an honest space, it's likely your partner will truly believe and cherish your honesty and feel your love.

4. Share your excitement for your future together.

Don't hold back about expressing your excitement for your future together. If you're thinking of marriage, kids, vacations, career shifts, etc., share your thoughts and feelings with your partner - and make sure to include them in the future scenarios.

This affirms your desire to stay with your partner and your love for them and your time and life together.

5. Show pride in them.

Did they get a promotion at work? Achieve a fitness goal they've worked hard for? Make a new friend? Whatever it is, show pride in them for their accomplishments and achievements.

Rather than get jealous, get excited and proud for your partner and ooze these feelings all over them! It'll show them your true love.

6. Hold space for them to be emotionally vulnerable.

Foster an open atmosphere that allows for emotional vulnerability. Hold space for your partner to simply be, in whatever emotional state they may be experiencing. Hold them tight, or give them space (whatever they need in the moment).

By being there and being open to their emotions without judgement, you're expressing unconditional love.

7. Ask them for advice and opinions.

Show that you care deeply about their opinions and advice by asking for their opinions and advice! It'll make them feel heard, valued, and loved.

8. Speak highly of them when they're not around.

When you're talking to your family, friends, or coworkers, make sure to speak highly of your partner. Let everyone know your love for them. Everyone should know you're in a relationship with someone you love and respect deeply - and that will eventually get back to them.

How you speak of them to others when they're not around is a clear way to really show your partner your love. Though indirect, it's effective and powerful.

There are many ways to express your love to your partner. Finding the ways that work for you and your loved one is the most important key in making sure you're both seen and heard.

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Strong Women Don’t Beg For Attention, They Leave People Who Make Them Feel Unloved

If you've ever been in a relationship with someone and think things are going great only to end up ghosted - you're not alone. Ghosting is becoming more and more common...and it drives women crazy.

Here's how it often goes: A woman is ghosted or things end suddenly, and she ends up bombarding her ex's phone with non-stop text messages, longing for closure. She might even show up to his house, workplace, or other locations he frequents. Then when he still doesn't text her back, she obsesses over the relationship, everything that happened, trying to make sense of everything. She might even wait around, expecting him to come back and apologize any moment. She wonders what's wrong with her and what she did wrong. She hopes he's thinking of her like she is of him.

Here's the thing about guys though. If they're interested, you'll know it. And if they're not? It's time to move on. When someone isn't interested, it's a waste of time to try and change that.

Besides that, if you truly want a chance with them again (which, why would you if they ghosted you, but if you did), sending texts and acting desperate will just push them away further. Showcasing the strong woman that you are will get heads turning, though!

A strong woman, an Alpha woman, does things a little differently when she realizes a guy isn't into her.

A strong woman respects herself enough to move on with grace.

She doesn't sacrifice her dignity and self-respect by sending a million text messages and leaving endless voicemails. If she's ghosted, she reflects the silence that's given to her right back at them.

A strong woman does grieve the relationship, but she does so with purpose. She doesn't lay around sobbing and watching soap operas for weeks. She mourns in a way that feels good to her for a maximum of three days. Then, she puts her "big girl pants" back on and carries on with life.

A strong, Alpha woman knows that she'll find someone better. After all, if someone ghosted her or ended things distastefully, they're not emotionally mature enough to be in a healthy relationship to begin with. She recognizes that and may even be happy when a situation like that arises so she can move on quicker to someone worth her time and energy.

Being treated poorly really opens your eyes to the depths of that person's core and emotional intelligence. A strong woman might even thank them for showing her their true colors early on.

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A strong woman doesn't settle.

Beyond handling being dumped or ghosted with grace and dignity, a strong woman also knows when she needs to end things and she does so unapologetically. She's unafraid to move on from a relationship if she's being treated as second-best or being undervalued.

She regularly reassess her relationships to ensure she's being met with respect and appreciation.

She ends things gracefully if and when need be. She doesn't offer lengthy explanations or drawn-out apologies. Rather, she calls for a simple face to face meeting (or even a phone call) and explains that she doesn't see long-term potential in the relationship and doesn't want to waste either of their time any longer.

She thanks him for their time together and wishes him well. That's it. No apologies, sob stories, explanations, or quests for closure. After all, at the end of the day if things didn't work out, it doesn't really matter why. There's no need to dive into the relationship once it's already ended.

She knows that if things don't work out with one man, there are others. There are enough men for every person and her "Mister Right" is out there somewhere. She's willing to stay single until she finds a man with the right traits.

A strong woman refuses to chase love.

Trying to "fight" for love with the wrong person never ends well and she knows it. She has too much self-respect and dignity to push for things to work in a relationship that's anything less than great.

As romanticized as it is to chase after people and do crazy things in the name of love, a strong woman knows her worth and refuses to chase anyone who doesn't value her - and men respect her for it.

While it may feel right to cling to your relationship and "fight" for your ex in the name of love, channeling your inner Alpha woman, your inner strength, and moving on with grace and dignity will boost your confidence, self-esteem, and ease the pain of heartbreak.

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