5 Reasons Why You Shouldn't Feel Required To Justify Yourself
In the back of every person's mind, a subconscious substrate of all thought and emotion is mixing around, either clear and functional, or tangled up and suppressed.
In other words, all the things that happen to us throughout the day and the way we are treated by everyone, it builds up in the back of the mind and really has a profound effect on us.
Sometimes it's even a delayed reaction. You might be the more kind and giving person in a relationship of friendship, and when that isn't reciprocated, it could leave a genuine, long-lasting feeling of being taken advantage of: that type of thing really builds up.
This article should help explain why you have every right to do whatever you want in life, even if your friends and family initially don't respect your right to choose your own path.
1. It doesn't matter who is "right," it's your life
There is a such thing as objective morality, but when it comes to your life path and decisions you make, you're the only person who is correct: it's your choice.
When someone tries to coerce you into following a path that your gut and your intuition does not feel, that's just what the situation is: coercion.
Make no mistake, someone can be as polite and kind as they want, but they're still trying to coerce you to some extent if they're trying to insist you take a path in life you don't want to, like working toward a college degree for years.
In life, it's objectively necessary that we work as hard as we can to earn these paper notes we use to buy food.
It's certainly true that taking the path of going against the "grain" of the system and rejecting school may be difficult for some, but some of us are simply not destined for the mainstream path at all.
People who go their own way deserve the respect and support of their family and friends, not persistent, pushy and disrespectful attempts to persuade them to go on a different path.
Some people have no concept of what respect truly is, and if they follow mainstream culture, they may have no self respect either.
2. You don't necessarily owe anyone anything
When people try to act like you owe them something, or get you in this position where you're subservient to them in subtle ways, that's really not right.
Of course, there's nothing wrong with co-dependency and intimate closeness in whatever kind of relationship you would like, but when people try to treat you like this without offering anything in return, there's a problem.
Why do people even care what you do in life? When people are told to mind their own business and respect your right to live however you want, it's healthy.
It makes you feel free and strong as you should be, cleansing you of the repressed feelings you may be afflicted with from growing up in public school and in the system.
3. Is everybody right about everything?
Everybody who tries to tell you what to do, what do they really know? What do they know that you don't?
Absolutely nothing most of the time: depending on those who you surround yourself with and where you grew up, there may be all kinds of people around you trying to tell you how to live your life.
It's no exaggeration to say it's psychologically damaging, hindering to one's self-esteem and free expression, the free flow of all thought and inspiration, to be constantly told what to do and how to live life.
4. Pointless authority crushes free expression
What's that feeling you get, when in the back of your mind you feel hesitation about doing something because of some authority?
You might not even be breaking any laws or rules, but a feeling of hesitation, clutter is present in your subconscious, just about something you want to do that you should have every right to do.
What is that? It's the consequence of excessive authority, a culture of stringent regulation, and this psychologically damaging culture of regulation may be designed to do just that.
Free expression is severely hindered by authority and unnecessary regulation, and the consequences seem to far outweigh any potential chaos caused by a lack of regulation.
To solve this problem, that tangled subconscious, the feeling of hesitation you shouldn't even have, you might have to break out of it and make a point to never hesitate.
Never fail to assert yourself, never fail to do what you want with morality and respect with you, and that cluttered feeling should start to heal.
5. Communication is a product of respect
It's certainly true that a healthy level of communication and explaining your reasoning for doing things in life is conducive to a good friendship, and a really healthy relationship.
However, are you really obligated to explain your reasoning for everything? No matter what kind of pressure the people you know place upon you to do things a certain way, you are your own person.
As a general rule, maybe the amount you communicate your reasoning to people should be based on their level of respect for you. Why even explain what you're doing in life if people are going to disrespect you?
Or you could take the route of explaining anyway, because that's what you want to do, regardless of their reaction. In any case, doing whatever you want in life with consideration to your own morality is a freeing, cleansing thing.
In conclusion, there are a lot of things in life these days that seem specifically designed to hinder the free expression of the human spirit.
Asserting the will to live however you want doesn't have to be any extreme, hedonistic thing, or anything that conflicts with respect and consideration for the ones you love: it's about their respect for you.
You deserve respect and the ability to live life how you want, and if the people around you love you, depending on the circumstances they should appreciate what makes you happy.
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