Everyone gets depressed, feels lonely or just simply hates everything for no reason. It’s an unavoidable part of life. How we choose to deal with adversity reveals our true character and builds up our inner resources.
Below are some words from famous people. They touch on how beautiful life is even in a terrible storm. All the moisture will mean strong crops and flowers.
“A positive attitude gives you power over your circumstances instead of your circumstances having power over you.” — Joyce Meyer
So you are in a bad situation. It happens to the best of us, but what separates the best from everyone else is the control they nurture in themselves. You can’t control anything but yourself, so hold the reigns of your life firmly.
“Man is fond of counting his troubles, but he does not count his joys. If he counted them up as he ought to, he would see that every lot has enough happiness provided for it.” — Fyodor Dostoevsky
If you are ever in a funk and don’t know what to do about it, try writing a gratitude list. Not a little ten item chicken scratch. At least twenty examples of great people in your life and sixty to eighty general aspects of your life that you appreciate. It will be a surprising struggle at first, but stick with it and that list will end up being the last item.
“The greatest degree of inner tranquility comes from the development of love and compassion. The more we care for the happiness of others, the greater is our own sense of well-being.” — Tenzin Gyatso
If you haven’t experienced this for yourself (you probably have), then it’s experiment time. When you are feeling really low and sad, instead of focusing on your problems, reach out to someone you know that could use help. It can be helping your elderly neighbors rake the yard, go be a warm shoulder to cry on for a friend.
“Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, and success achieved.” — Helen Keller
Adversity is the arena where we face the unknown, our fear. We have to meet life on life’s terms and this helps us grow.
“A pearl is a beautiful thing that is produced by an injured life. It is the tear [that results] from the injury of the oyster. The treasure of our being in this world is also produced by an injured life. If we had not been wounded, if we had not been injured, then we will not produce the pearl.” – Stephan Hoeller
Unexpected and negative aspects of life are normally the ones that can propel us towards a better and stronger us. It comes down to perspective, are you going to see this as an opportunity or an obstacle?
“Sometimes your joy is the source of your smile, but sometimes your smile can be the source of your joy.” – Thich Nhat Hanh
Fake it till you make it, comes to mind. If nothing else smiles are infectious and in my experience, spontaneous smiles lift my mood or at least loosen the funk I may be in.
“Good humor is a tonic for mind and body. It is the best antidote for anxiety and depression. It is a business asset. It attracts and keep friends. It lightens human burdens. It is the direct route to serenity and contentment.” – Greenville Kleisser
Humor is one of the greatest forces out there. In order to make someone laugh, you have to have this positive intention and an awareness of the situation and person. The awareness of both good and bad elements in an environment is a feat by itself. Now all that information is acknowledged and released through laughter.
“And the day came when the risk it took to remain tight inside the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” – Anais Nin
Change is the only constant in the universe. Eventually, everything will be forced to make a move. Your depression will not last forever, I know it seems like it will but it can’t. Knowing your situation has the seeds of change already within it, prompt them to grow on your terms.
“The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.” – Elisabeth Kübler-Ross
The wider the range of emotions a person has experienced is noticeable even to strangers walking by. Depression can be debilitating, but time after time you get out of bed and back into the world. The rebound gets harder every time, and sometimes you’re not sure you have what it takes.
Yet here you are. You should be proud that understand that aspect of yourself and fight against it. Your inner resources get deeper and more plentiful every time you get out of that muck.
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