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What Are Life's Hardest Lessons To Accept? 7 Truths I Designed To Set Myself Free

I am tired of listening to others complain about their life without doing anything about it. Yes, life is hard, and yes we are often bound by circumstances outside of our control. But, we also always have some kind of choice. We can choose to let circumstance completely dictate the outcome of our lives, or we can choose to react to it positively and welcome the challenge as an opportunity.

The older I get, the more of these truths I have come to accept. The biggest lesson has been that I am in control and I always have a choice. So right now I am choosing to share the hardest lessons I have had to learn in hope that they can set you free as well.

You Do Not Simply Deserve Someone's Love

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We always tell ourselves that we deserve love and then wonder why it doesn't seem to work out. I disagree with that mentality. We should set higher standards for each other. Love shouldn't simply be deserved, rather it should be earned. I'm not saying you should always be competing and trying to prove to one another how much you love each other.

Rather, you should give love without entitlement and expect the same in return. You should be putting in effort in getting it and maintaining it.

You Will Never Love Another, Before You Love Your Whole Self

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You can try all you want but I can tell you right now that for every person that you try to love before you have fully loved yourself, you will break their heart. You won't be able to give them everything they need because you still don't know how. You won't be able to split your energy between filling the void of your being and still having enough to give to someone else.

I said earlier that you don't just deserve someone else's love, but what you do deserve is your own love. Love yourself. You need to put yourself in control and accept that you won't be able to receive someone else until you give it to yourself first.

Your Bank Account Is Not A Reflection of Your Character

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This is the way I see it. You can either make money to live or live to make money. While large sums of money can facilitate happiness, it will never buy it.

Some of us are able to manifest large opportunities and that's great but for those who are living paycheck to paycheck, you are not any less worthy. You're not doing something wrong. And you definitely shouldn't waste your every waking moment trying to figure out how to make more.

You Cannot Only Live For The Weekends For The Rest Of Your Life

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Do not live for the weekend. Life is too short to wake up every day already counting down for it to end. You're wasting precious time if you're going through the motions five days a week in the hope of finding some sort of freedom on the weekend.

There is a difference between living and simply being alive. If you don't feel like you're living for five days out of seven then something needs to change and fast. Remember that you are in control, and opportunities can be found if you go looking in the right places.

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You Need To Be Grateful For Pain

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​You can't pick and chose what you're grateful for. To truly come from a place of gratitude and be open to receive what you wish to manifest, you need to be grateful for everything you deem as negative. Pain is what helps you grow.

Without pain, you won't be able to value pleasure. Without hardships, you won't be able to appreciate beauty and notice opportunities. Pain is what prepares you with lessons you to be able to receive. Pain is the truth designed to set you free.

Love Is A Daily Choice

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Love is not supposed to be easy and come naturally as you see in the movies. It's not as simple as finding your soulmate and then expecting the rest to work out. Love is only the foundation but what you build on it is a daily choice. You need to wake up every day and make the conscious choice that this is the person that you want to be with.

There will be days that you can't stand them, and the choice will be harder, but those are the days that are going to define your relationship.

Words Are Weapons

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​You've probably heard the expression "Sticks and stones may break my bones. But words will never hurt me." I say that that's a lie we tell ourselves. Words can be weapons that destroy people or the weapons we use to better our lives.

Our language works in a system following the "Law of Attraction." Our thoughts have the power to attract into our lives whatever we focus on. When we use positive words, we match their frequency with the positive energy of the universe. So chose your words wisely.

So Where Do You Start?

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How To Be More Confident In Just 5 Minutes, Try It

We're Not Born With It

We weren't born confident. Confidence is a quality we need to cultivate by thinking outside of the box and refusing to live only to please others. Think back to when you were a child. You didn't need to be confident then, you simply cried when things didn't go your way. But, as you grew up, you start to notice the impact of how others see you and you become self-conscious. We're the ones that give power to others by letting what they think to dictate our confidence when really it's how we feel about ourselves that will radiate confidence.

That's why all it takes to be more confident is five minutes designed to rewire your thought pattern to bring the attention back where it belongs.

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Strike A Power Pose

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Guess what? No one is confident all the time. Not even those who have a full makeup and hair team every single day. The key is knowing how to switch confidence back on when it seems fleeting. You can actually trick your own brain.

Go into a room where you can be alone. It helps if there's a mirror. Then extend your arms up in a "V" shape. Stand as tall and as big as you possibly can. This is called the Victory stance and is a power pose. Keep your feet shoulder-width apart ad your chin up, and stand there in silence for two whole minutes. It might feel awkward for the first 30 seconds, but it'll fix your posture, bring a smile to your face and restore your confidence. Take that power out the door with you by keeping your head held high and your body standing straight.

Maintain Eye Contact

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Eye Contact is arguably the most powerful form of communication. When interacting with others, looking them in the eye makes them feel seen and acknowledges every word they say. When you keep your gaze fixated on them, after a while you genuinely stop noticing everything happening around them, and in a way you make them feel like the only person in the world.

You can do the same thing to yourself. Stand by a mirror and stare straight into your own and watch the world melt away. Remind yourself with the intention that at this moment all that matters is you. Everything else is on hold because to face it, you need to first check-in with yourself. You have all the power to make that happen because you love yourself, you have a purpose, and you matter. Remember who you are and ground yourself.

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Lose The "Ums"

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A confident person articulates and speaks with intention. Instead of blurting out whatever comes to mind, show assertiveness by taking a second to think before you speak. Not only will this help you lose the ums and uhs but it will make what you say seem more valuable. the same goes for awkward giggles at the end of a sentence.

Laughing when you're done is like saying that everything you just said was a joke and completely discredits you. You can practice this even as you think. Train your thought patterns so they flow.

Relive Your Most Glorious Moment

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This step is most beneficial at the moment right before you're about to be in the spotlight. Close your eyes. Think of the last time that you were proud of yourself in a situation. Remember how you felt, what you said, and why you did it.

Remember how successful you were and how capable you are of creating such success. Imagine all the details of that last moment of success and take the confidence it brings you into your next glorious moment.

Recreate Your Environment

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Do you know why some people who spend their days in offices aren't happy no matter how much money they make? It's because of their environment, constantly being in front of a screen and between four walls. Some research shows that taking even just two minutes to walk in greenery can completely change your mood. Remember that happiness is confidence so you want to be stimulating your brain and its perception of the world in every way that you can.

Whenever you're running low on confidence go and connect with nature, or experience a new place, or just change your environment to somewhere that makes you feel good and watch how it changes your mood. This then will reflect in how you present yourself to others.

Reframe Your Breath

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​When you're anxious and experiencing low self-esteem, your breathing physically changes. You start breathing heavily, and faster. The more shallow your breathing becomes, the worst you feel.

Instead, try breathing deeply with intention. Stand up and breathe in for five seconds, completely filling your diaphragm, and then breath out for another five seconds. As you take control of your breath, start visualizing a future where you are in control. Tell yourself "I breath in peace and I breath out anxiety" If you do this for a couple of minutes, you should feel relaxed and in control afterward.

Stop Chasing Someone Else's Ideal

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