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What Is One Piece​ Of Advice That Changed Your Life? 10 People Share Theirs

The way we look at life now has changed as we grew up. We learned the hard way, we gained experience, we made mistakes, and we have also had a lot of successes. However, usually, there is one specific motto that really pushed us. It was like an epiphany that suddenly gave a little more sense to our actions.

People on Reddit came together to share the one piece of advice that changed their life so that perhaps the rest of us can combine their lived experience with ours in an effort to continue to grow and live life to its most potential.

Not Everyone Is Worth Listening To

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"If you wouldn't take advice from them, why would you take criticism?" - Howdydobe / Reddit

The older we are, the more we learn not to care about everyone's criticism. It's basically impossible to please everyone at all times.

Someone will always be projecting their own shortcomings, jealousy or values even when we feel proud of our accomplishments. The only people we should look up to are the ones we strive to be like.

Think Before You Speak

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"I was always told to think three things: Does this need to be said? Does this need to be said by me? Does this need to be said by me right now? If it's a no on any of these, shut up." - ruiner32

We often say things we don't mean or wish we could take back, only to have trouble falling asleep at night because we're thinking of all the things we should have said instead. So why not take the time at the moment to sit in silence before speaking to make sure that our thoughts align with our words?

Silence Is Powerful

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"A quiet life is not a boring life" - JusticeforKimPine

There is power in silence. Within it we find ourselves. We find peace and tranquility. We can push aside all the noise of society and find our true selves so that we can reach our highest selves.

That's why meditation at its most powerful is silent. Having a quiet life doesn't mean missing out on experiences and staying home, it just means not caving to the excessive noise.

Emotions Come And Go

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​"Don't make permanent decisions on temporary emotions"- 4evadreaming

Our impulse is usually to act in the heat of the moment. It is the moment during which we feel most powerful. However, emotions aren't reliable. Even when you think you're listening to your gut, you need to actually take the time to decipher what your gut is telling you by stripping it from overshadowing emotions. These emotions will pass but the decision you make during them will last.

The Value of Releasing

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"Hating someone is like drinking poison yourself and waiting until it kills them." - ziftarous

In release there is freedom. When we hold onto to resentment, we keep ourselves prisoners. We give away our power to someone else. We let our happiness be dictated by actions that are outside of our control. The truth of the matter is that how we feel about someone else won't change them. We can only change ourselves and how we feel about them.

Good Memories Can Be Bad

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" 'Good memories can be just as toxic as bad memories.' So many people hold on to the good times in the past, hoping that it'll be like that again. You remember how good things were at the start, and you convince yourself 'they're not that bad, remember that one good time..."

But what's in the past has already happened. Your current reality is not that anymore. Good memories can really trap you in bad places if you're not careful. This advice has definitely been a wake-up call to me before." - Embarrassed-Bar-2869

Youth Is From Within

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"Don't find someone to grow old with, find someone to stay forever young with." - LewisandLucy

Your life doesn't simply have to end or slow down as you age. Having a partner is still willing to adapt and experience the beauty of life with you at any age is like forever. It gives you an opportunity to fall in love with one another over and over again.

There Is No Point In Comparaison

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"Comparison is the thief of joy" - LewisandLucy

Some of us are blessed from a young age through the family we are born into, while some of us have to work towards our blessing as we get older. Not one is more deserving than the other. Opportunities can also be created in the way that best serves us. There is no point in feeling bad about ourselves because we are not matching someone who is meant for a completely different path.

Everyone Is On Their Own Journey

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" Most things people do have nothing to do with you, even if it's directed at you. It really did change my life in that I hardly ever take things personally anymore." - StaplePriz

Nine times out of ten there is the history behind our every word and action. We subconsciously project our pain and our hope. If someone steps out of line, it's likely a projection of their own struggle and not at all a reflection of you. Knowing this makes it much easier to move on.

Control Only What You Can

"ONLY worry about what you CAN control... which isn't very much." - giantbooze

At the end of the day, we're all simply doing our best. We're all capable of creating, adapting and changing our environments but we also need to take into account that we cannot change others. That means that we will face obstacles as we navigate how to get around them and that is just part of the journey.​

Spirituality

How To Be More Confident In Just 5 Minutes, Try It

We're Not Born With It

We weren't born confident. Confidence is a quality we need to cultivate by thinking outside of the box and refusing to live only to please others. Think back to when you were a child. You didn't need to be confident then, you simply cried when things didn't go your way. But, as you grew up, you start to notice the impact of how others see you and you become self-conscious. We're the ones that give power to others by letting what they think to dictate our confidence when really it's how we feel about ourselves that will radiate confidence.

That's why all it takes to be more confident is five minutes designed to rewire your thought pattern to bring the attention back where it belongs.

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Strike A Power Pose

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Guess what? No one is confident all the time. Not even those who have a full makeup and hair team every single day. The key is knowing how to switch confidence back on when it seems fleeting. You can actually trick your own brain.

Go into a room where you can be alone. It helps if there's a mirror. Then extend your arms up in a "V" shape. Stand as tall and as big as you possibly can. This is called the Victory stance and is a power pose. Keep your feet shoulder-width apart ad your chin up, and stand there in silence for two whole minutes. It might feel awkward for the first 30 seconds, but it'll fix your posture, bring a smile to your face and restore your confidence. Take that power out the door with you by keeping your head held high and your body standing straight.

Maintain Eye Contact

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Eye Contact is arguably the most powerful form of communication. When interacting with others, looking them in the eye makes them feel seen and acknowledges every word they say. When you keep your gaze fixated on them, after a while you genuinely stop noticing everything happening around them, and in a way you make them feel like the only person in the world.

You can do the same thing to yourself. Stand by a mirror and stare straight into your own and watch the world melt away. Remind yourself with the intention that at this moment all that matters is you. Everything else is on hold because to face it, you need to first check-in with yourself. You have all the power to make that happen because you love yourself, you have a purpose, and you matter. Remember who you are and ground yourself.

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Lose The "Ums"

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A confident person articulates and speaks with intention. Instead of blurting out whatever comes to mind, show assertiveness by taking a second to think before you speak. Not only will this help you lose the ums and uhs but it will make what you say seem more valuable. the same goes for awkward giggles at the end of a sentence.

Laughing when you're done is like saying that everything you just said was a joke and completely discredits you. You can practice this even as you think. Train your thought patterns so they flow.

Relive Your Most Glorious Moment

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This step is most beneficial at the moment right before you're about to be in the spotlight. Close your eyes. Think of the last time that you were proud of yourself in a situation. Remember how you felt, what you said, and why you did it.

Remember how successful you were and how capable you are of creating such success. Imagine all the details of that last moment of success and take the confidence it brings you into your next glorious moment.

Recreate Your Environment

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Do you know why some people who spend their days in offices aren't happy no matter how much money they make? It's because of their environment, constantly being in front of a screen and between four walls. Some research shows that taking even just two minutes to walk in greenery can completely change your mood. Remember that happiness is confidence so you want to be stimulating your brain and its perception of the world in every way that you can.

Whenever you're running low on confidence go and connect with nature, or experience a new place, or just change your environment to somewhere that makes you feel good and watch how it changes your mood. This then will reflect in how you present yourself to others.

Reframe Your Breath

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​When you're anxious and experiencing low self-esteem, your breathing physically changes. You start breathing heavily, and faster. The more shallow your breathing becomes, the worst you feel.

Instead, try breathing deeply with intention. Stand up and breathe in for five seconds, completely filling your diaphragm, and then breath out for another five seconds. As you take control of your breath, start visualizing a future where you are in control. Tell yourself "I breath in peace and I breath out anxiety" If you do this for a couple of minutes, you should feel relaxed and in control afterward.

Stop Chasing Someone Else's Ideal

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