The way we look at life now has changed as we grew up. We learned the hard way, we gained experience, we made mistakes, and we have also had a lot of successes. However, usually, there is one specific motto that really pushed us. It was like an epiphany that suddenly gave a little more sense to our actions.
People on Reddit came together to share the one piece of advice that changed their life so that perhaps the rest of us can combine their lived experience with ours in an effort to continue to grow and live life to its most potential.
Not Everyone Is Worth Listening To
“If you wouldn’t take advice from them, why would you take criticism?” – Howdydobe / Reddit
The older we are, the more we learn not to care about everyone’s criticism. It’s basically impossible to please everyone at all times.
Someone will always be projecting their own shortcomings, jealousy or values even when we feel proud of our accomplishments. The only people we should look up to are the ones we strive to be like.
Think Before You Speak
“I was always told to think three things: Does this need to be said? Does this need to be said by me? Does this need to be said by me right now? If it’s a no on any of these, shut up.” – ruiner32
We often say things we don’t mean or wish we could take back, only to have trouble falling asleep at night because we’re thinking of all the things we should have said instead. So why not take the time at the moment to sit in silence before speaking to make sure that our thoughts align with our words?
Silence Is Powerful
“A quiet life is not a boring life” – JusticeforKimPine
There is power in silence. Within it we find ourselves. We find peace and tranquility. We can push aside all the noise of society and find our true selves so that we can reach our highest selves.
That’s why meditation at its most powerful is silent. Having a quiet life doesn’t mean missing out on experiences and staying home, it just means not caving to the excessive noise.
Emotions Come And Go
”Don’t make permanent decisions on temporary emotions”- 4evadreaming
Our impulse is usually to act in the heat of the moment. It is the moment during which we feel most powerful. However, emotions aren’t reliable. Even when you think you’re listening to your gut, you need to actually take the time to decipher what your gut is telling you by stripping it from overshadowing emotions. These emotions will pass but the decision you make during them will last.
The Value of Releasing
“Hating someone is like drinking poison yourself and waiting until it kills them.” – ziftarous
In release there is freedom. When we hold onto to resentment, we keep ourselves prisoners. We give away our power to someone else. We let our happiness be dictated by actions that are outside of our control. The truth of the matter is that how we feel about someone else won’t change them. We can only change ourselves and how we feel about them.
Good Memories Can Be Bad
” ‘Good memories can be just as toxic as bad memories.’ So many people hold on to the good times in the past, hoping that it’ll be like that again. You remember how good things were at the start, and you convince yourself ‘they’re not that bad, remember that one good time…”
But what’s in the past has already happened. Your current reality is not that anymore. Good memories can really trap you in bad places if you’re not careful. This advice has definitely been a wake-up call to me before.” – Embarrassed-Bar-2869
Youth Is From Within
“Don’t find someone to grow old with, find someone to stay forever young with.” – LewisandLucy
Your life doesn’t simply have to end or slow down as you age. Having a partner is still willing to adapt and experience the beauty of life with you at any age is like forever. It gives you an opportunity to fall in love with one another over and over again.
There Is No Point In Comparaison
“Comparison is the thief of joy” – LewisandLucy
Some of us are blessed from a young age through the family we are born into, while some of us have to work towards our blessing as we get older. Not one is more deserving than the other. Opportunities can also be created in the way that best serves us. There is no point in feeling bad about ourselves because we are not matching someone who is meant for a completely different path.
Everyone Is On Their Own Journey
” Most things people do have nothing to do with you, even if it’s directed at you. It really did change my life in that I hardly ever take things personally anymore.” – StaplePriz
Nine times out of ten there is the history behind our every word and action. We subconsciously project our pain and our hope. If someone steps out of line, it’s likely a projection of their own struggle and not at all a reflection of you. Knowing this makes it much easier to move on.
Control Only What You Can
“ONLY worry about what you CAN control… which isn’t very much.” – giantbooze
At the end of the day, we’re all simply doing our best. We’re all capable of creating, adapting and changing our environments but we also need to take into account that we cannot change others. That means that we will face obstacles as we navigate how to get around them and that is just part of the journey.
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