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What You Need To Do To Attract The Kind Of Man You Want

Love doesn't come easy but that doesn't mean that there aren't ways that you can increase your odds of receiving it. They say that love comes when you least expect it, but this takes away the mentality that you are in control and that you are capable of manifesting it with the right tools.

You have your standards and your vision of your perfect man. Now all you have to do is create the opportunities to attract him to you. Here's how.

Put Yourself First

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This may seem counter-intuitive but to attract the right kind of man you need to first love yourself. Keep them out of your mind until you're in a place where you don't feel a need for someone else's validation.

This will ensure that you maintain your standards and attract like-minded people. It will keep away men that don't value you as soon as they notice how much you value yourself.

Have Fun

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You're probably noticing a theme by now. When you make yourself happy, your happiness becomes attractive. When you radiate positive vibes, men can feel it and they want to be around it. This keeps away men who will drag you down or want someone to commiserate with.

Men can sense your vibe without you needing to try or to prove it. Have fun and do your thing and they will catch you in your element. Just be the kind of person you want to attract.

Let The Past Be In The Past

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Let go of past triggers as without doing so you'll end up projecting them unto somebody else, even if it's not intentional. When you're holding on to a trigger, one that caused something bad to happen in the past, you put your mind on high alert.

Instead of looking for happiness or the right qualities in a man, you end up attracting someone you subconsciously think will provide closure or heal you of that trigger. You need to be free of it so you don't attract it back.

Be Vulnerable

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Listen, no one's fallen in love by putting up their walls. While it makes sense to want to be protect your heart, if you're not open and ready to receive love, you're taking away the opportunity from a genuine soulmate kind of love. Instead, you attract flings and lessons and wonder why you're not attracting the right type of guy.

When you put yourself out there, into the hands of the universe, you take a risk, but you ensure that you're at the very least true to your intentions.

Know That You Deserve It

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You need to not only think you're worthy of love but to genuinely feel in your bones that you deserve it. This way you only accept the love that treats you kindly rather than settle for a love that may seem good but is actually quite toxic.

The right person will never make you feel like you're not enough, that you need to change or that you need to try hard. While love may not always be easy, it should be natural, comfortable and equal.​

Expand Your Horizons With New Adventures

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You want to align yourself with opportunities where you can meet someone who compliments you. You'll increase your odds by going on the type of adventures that you hope to one day share with a partner. That way rather than wonder where these kind of men are, you're going right to them.

You can't meet someone at the bar and wonder why they never want to stay home to cuddle, the same way that if you're meeting someone while backpacking Europe or simply reading a book in the library, you're already accepting each other for your interests and who you are.

Show Off Your Kindness

There may be an idea that men want mysterious and rebellious women that excite them, but in reality, studies show that kindness is actually one of the traits most desired by a partner for both men and women.

Here's what the study found: "Kindness is linked with a cooperative disposition, interest in long-term relationships, ability to form social alliances, and empathy in rearing children." By continuing to be the best person that you can be, you're already on the right path to attracting the kind of man that you want.

Spirituality

The Biggest Deathbeds Regrets Shared By The Dying

It's hard to pinpoint our exact regrets as we go through life because they're constantly changing. We regret decisions in the moment but we move on and eventually, they don't seem like a big deal. But, over time, some regrets accumulate and mold into one big regret. Unfortunately, by the time we realize what it is that we value most and wish we had done differently, it's a little too late. The good news is, if you're reading this, you're likely alive and well. That means that you still have an opportunity to do something about your regrets so by the time that you're on your deathbed, you have none.

Pay attention to these biggest deathbed regerts, shared by people in their final days. They were recorded by Shannon L. Alder an author and therapist, known for her tidbits of wisdom that have been published in over 100 different books.

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Living True To The Self

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"I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life other people expected of me."

From a very young age, we become conditioned to live to please and look good in the eyes of others. We prioritize the value of how others see us, over the way we see ourselves. We work tirelessly to make relationships work, to get promotions at work, to be seen, appreciated, and valued by strangers. We have created social networks that carry the sole purpose of seeing, and being seen. However, we end up setting unrealistic expectations and working towards unachievable standards.

We never feel good enough or stop to appreciate who we are and how far we've come. We never truly feel fulfilled or take the risks necessary to reach our highest selves, without worrying about how it affects everyone else, or what everyone will think of it. Sadly, at the end of the day, only we are responsible for our own happiness and achievements so what others think really doesn't matter.

Taking The Time To Watch Children Grow

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"I wish I took time to be with my children more when they were growing up."

Circumstantially, many parents struggle to juggle their responsibilities on top of their role to their children. They convince themselves that by working overtime, even missing their children's events is ultimately for their own good. But really no amount of extra money earned will ever measure up to the priceless moments we could have spent with our children.

In the blink of an eye, they go from children to adults and stop needing us. They get used to our absence. They never learn the value of family time because we didn't take the time to instill it in them. As parents, everything we do while our children grow up has the power to impact the people they become.

Revealing Feelings Without Fear

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"I wish I had the courage to express my feelings, without the fear of being rejected or unpopular."

The fear of rejection truly holds up back from going after our heart's desires. We get caught up in all the worst-case scenarios that we fail to take the risk and possibility live the best-case scenarios. But, isn't better to take a risk and at least find out how it plays out, then always wonder about what could have happened?

The person you ask out could reject you or could be the love of your life. The promotion you ask for could be dismissed or could be your next big break. The book you've always wanted to write could be laughed at or could be the next bestseller...You'll never know until you try.

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Staying Connected With Loved Ones

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"I wish I would have stayed in touch with friends and family."

People come in and out of your life for a reason but some people are meant to stay alongside you for most of the journey if enough effort is put in to maintain and nurture those bonds. It's easy for us to get so caught up in our lives that we stop taking the time to reach out. Yet relationships are just like muscles, they need to be worked out, cared for, and nurtured.

Even the strongest bonds need to be valued. Telling someone you love that you're thinking of them can go a long way. It's an equal give and take. H uman beings are wired to crave connections with another.

Surrendered To Forgivness

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"I wish I would have forgiven someone when I had the chance."

Holding grudges is exhausting. It keeps us trapped in a cycle of resentment and frustration. It often leads us to blame and holds us back from growth. With forgiveness, on the other hand, there is freedom. We finally let go of what no longer serves us and open ourselves up to moving forward.

Forgiveness is not only for the person being forgiven but for the person offering forgiveness. It releases both parties and frees up space within them to receive new and positive beginnings. Everyone makes mistakes, we're only human, and anyone that says otherwise isn't looking at the big picture.

Expressed To People How Valuable They Are

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"I wish I would have told the people I loved the most how important they are to me."

It's incredible how much of an impact we have the power to make on one another. Think of the butterfly effect, where every little action, as small as a butterfly flapping its wings, can have enough of a reaction that could trigger a tsunami across the world.

Little gestures, as small as smiling at a stranger, holding the door open, or even just saying thank you can make or break someone's day. These gestures have even more of an impact when shared between loved ones. Let the people know around you know how much you value them, how special they are, and how big of a role they play in this world while you still can.

Tapped Into Confidence Instead Of Fear

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"I wish I would have had more confidence and tried more things, instead of being afraid of looking like a fool."

Life is all about risk. If you think about it, we're constantly living in the unknown. We have no idea what tomorrow brings We barely have control over what the next moment looks like. So much of what creates our experience is dependent on circumstances and other people.

So, at the very least, why don't we take as much control as we can over the parts that are up to us? We make all kinds of excuses for why we can't make that move, get out of a relationship or try a new career instead of actually finding out what our lives could look like. We are ultimately the sole creator of our story, so the least we could do is put more effort and take risks to write our narrative.

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Leaving A Mark On The World

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"I wish I would have done more to make an impact in this world."

You would be surprised at how easy it is to make an impact in this world. All it takes is making an impact on one single person, who in turn will do it for another and before you know we all touch each other's lives, one way or another. To make a difference, you don't have to single-handedly change the world. But, you can start small. Help where you can, don't put it off because you're too tired or it's not the right time. When you see an opportunity take it, instead of leaving it for the next person.

Don't get caught up in an unmeaningful life. Every day is a new chance to make a difference, somewhere, somehow.

Pursuing Talents And Passions

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"I wish I would have pursued my talents and gifts."

The good news is no matter how much regret you may feel near the end of your life, at the very last moment, none of it will matter anymore:

"As a hospice worker, I’ve had the honor of being with many a soul as they’ve left their bodies. At the moment of death, with those who have any power of communication, regret seems a distant 'human' concept that really no longer applies. I recall a gentleman who woke just briefly enough from days-long unconsciousness to say his own earthly name with the most beautiful mix of love, compassion, and bemusement. He spoke it as one might speak to a newborn baby or beloved pet, with zero judgment, and certainly no regret, at just the moment he passed​" - Wendora15 / Reddit​

Taken Risks Instead Of Remaining Comfortable

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"I wish I would have experienced more, instead of settling for a boring life filled with routine, mediocrity, and apathy."

Let this be your reminder to live every day fully while you can, to write off any regrets, and to take risks and watch them pay off. But, at the end of the day, appreciate what you have done, how far you've come, and the incredible person that you are,

"In my experience though, despite their regrets, many of the dying seem to get a look in their eyes right at the very end, when I think they are finally realizing the futility of struggle and surrendering to what Is. Knowing there is nothing left to do. For a moment you know they have transcended the mind and are free." - receding / Reddit

Are You Living While You're Alive?

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