What You Need To Do To Attract The Kind Of Man You Want

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Love doesn’t come easy but that doesn’t mean that there aren’t ways that you can increase your odds of receiving it. They say that love comes when you least expect it, but this takes away the mentality that you are in control and that you are capable of manifesting it with the right tools.

You have your standards and your vision of your perfect man. Now all you have to do is create the opportunities to attract him to you. Here’s how.

Put Yourself First

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Julia Avamotive / Unsplash

This may seem counter-intuitive but to attract the right kind of man you need to first love yourself. Keep them out of your mind until you’re in a place where you don’t feel a need for someone else’s validation.

This will ensure that you maintain your standards and attract like-minded people. It will keep away men that don’t value you as soon as they notice how much you value yourself.

Have Fun

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Ball Park Brand / Pexels

You’re probably noticing a theme by now. When you make yourself happy, your happiness becomes attractive. When you radiate positive vibes, men can feel it and they want to be around it. This keeps away men who will drag you down or want someone to commiserate with.

Men can sense your vibe without you needing to try or to prove it. Have fun and do your thing and they will catch you in your element. Just be the kind of person you want to attract.

Let The Past Be In The Past

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Smart / Unsplash

Let go of past triggers as without doing so you’ll end up projecting them unto somebody else, even if it’s not intentional. When you’re holding on to a trigger, one that caused something bad to happen in the past, you put your mind on high alert.

Instead of looking for happiness or the right qualities in a man, you end up attracting someone you subconsciously think will provide closure or heal you of that trigger. You need to be free of it so you don’t attract it back.

Be Vulnerable

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Tim Samuel / Pexels

Listen, no one’s fallen in love by putting up their walls. While it makes sense to want to be protect your heart, if you’re not open and ready to receive love, you’re taking away the opportunity from a genuine soulmate kind of love. Instead, you attract flings and lessons and wonder why you’re not attracting the right type of guy.

When you put yourself out there, into the hands of the universe, you take a risk, but you ensure that you’re at the very least true to your intentions.

Know That You Deserve It

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jakob Owens / Unsplash

You need to not only think you’re worthy of love but to genuinely feel in your bones that you deserve it. This way you only accept the love that treats you kindly rather than settle for a love that may seem good but is actually quite toxic.

The right person will never make you feel like you’re not enough, that you need to change or that you need to try hard. While love may not always be easy, it should be natural, comfortable and equal.​

Expand Your Horizons With New Adventures

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Kalen Emsley / Unsplash

You want to align yourself with opportunities where you can meet someone who compliments you. You’ll increase your odds by going on the type of adventures that you hope to one day share with a partner. That way rather than wonder where these kind of men are, you’re going right to them.

You can’t meet someone at the bar and wonder why they never want to stay home to cuddle, the same way that if you’re meeting someone while backpacking Europe or simply reading a book in the library, you’re already accepting each other for your interests and who you are.

Show Off Your Kindness

There may be an idea that men want mysterious and rebellious women that excite them, but in reality, studies show that kindness is actually one of the traits most desired by a partner for both men and women.

Here’s what the study found: “Kindness is linked with a cooperative disposition, interest in long-term relationships, ability to form social alliances, and empathy in rearing children.” By continuing to be the best person that you can be, you’re already on the right path to attracting the kind of man that you want.

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