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Why Staying Friends With An Ex Is The Worst Thing We Can Do To Ourselves

Breakups are painful enough but they're even worse when the reason they happened wasn't that either one of you was a bad person or made a huge mistake. Sometimes love is just not enough no matter how hard it is to accept.

After experiencing such a high level of intimacy, it can be detrimental to try to be friends with an ex before the time is right. Even if you think you can handle it and be the exception, here's why.

Feelings Don't Go Away With A Switch

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We tend to want to stay friends with our exes so that losing them doesn't feel too abrupt. It allows us to keep them in our life still somehow, even if it's not at the extent that we had hoped for. We think it'll make the transition easier when in fact it makes it much harder.

Feelings for someone we shared so much intimacy with don't just go away with the flick of a switch, or by slapping on a new label on your relationship. Staying friends makes it almost impossible for these feelings to go away.

Neither One Will Be Able To Move On

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Being around your ex as just friends will make you blind to the issues that made you break up in the first. You'll start to only see the good and feel regret over the loss of your romance. This will make it extremely hard for either one of you to move on.

You might opt-out of going on dates with other people because you hold out hope for each other even though neither one of you is taking the time to heal or work on any issues you once had.

You Deserve Love

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Just because it didn't work out with them, it doesn't mean it won't work out with someone else. By going back to your ex, even if if you've convinced yourself it's just as friends, you're stripping away your chance to fall in love again. Do you want to learn a secret technique anyone can master that will make someone fall in love with you?

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It Could Start A Toxic Cycle

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When feelings linger they might make you put on rose-colored glasses. You'll start to only see how much you love them and blind yourself for every logical reason why you shouldn't be together.

Often this confusion will push you into a cycle of on-again and off-again relationships. You'll get back together only to realize why you broke up in the first place, miss them and go back to them....you see the point, it's never-ending.

There Is No Real Benefit

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If you want to stay friends with your ex ask yourself: what is the real benefit? You'll realize that missing them and wanting them still in your life is not a benefit. Being just friends with an ex will only bring on a different kind of pain.

You'll hurt that you can't be together, you'll hurt if you see them moving on and you'll hurt when you can't. It'll simply bring back unresolved issues and keep you from being open to the path you're meant to be on.

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Uplifting

Twins Born Just Minutes Apart End Up Born in Two Different Years

It's as confusing as it sounds

You probably are confused by the title of this story but we assure you, you read it right. This is the story of how two twins who were born just moments apart ended up in two different years. It happens quite often actually and you'll understand once we reveal how. Ot's just a question of timing, much of which is outside anyone's control.

If you've already figured it out, then you likely have a great perspective. If you're still confused, don't worry, we're about to explain everything. And no, there's no time travel involved.

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Just A Matter Of Minutes

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Perhaps the most interesting factor in life is that all it takes for a drastic life change is just a moment. This can be good or bad. In a moment you can lose everything, say the wrong thing, or trip and fall into a lifetime injury. But at the same time, our whole identity is created in moments, such as the moment of your first kiss, the last time you see someone you loved, or the moment you hold your newborn baby for the first time.

This set of twins was born within just minutes of each other. However despite being twins they were born on different days, different months, and even different years.

Did The Hospital Make A Mistake?

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Now it's easy to wonder: "how could this even happen?" Maybe in the heat of the moment, a staff member accidentally wrote the wrong date on the birth certificate or the system made an error.

But the situation was much simpler. What happened was that parents Fatima Madrigal and Robert Trujillo of Greenfield welcomed a son named Alfredo into the world on New Year’s Eve at 11:45 p.m, their local time. Now that part makes sense. What makes this story interesting is that exactly fifteen minutes later, another baby pushed out and the couple welcomed Alfredo’s twin sister Aylin. This put the time of her birth to be on New Year’s Day, a whole day, month, and year ahead of her brother's. Now he can always claim to be the oldest and no one can argue against it.

The Magic of A Unique Birth

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Thankfully both babies came out healthy, despite the complications that the birth of twins can sometimes face. Aylin was welcomed into the world at 5 lbs., 14 oz., while her big brother, Alfredo weighed 6 lbs., 1 oz. Even their parents were amazed that their children now had different years on their birth certificates. The mother explained: "It's crazy to me that they are twins and have different birthdays."

Although this might not be the first time this happens, twins with different birthdays are rare, and the chance of twins being born in different years is about one in 2 million. These babies defied the odds from the moment they came into the world, now they can take that with them for the rest of their lives.

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Imagine The Birthday Parties

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Dr. Ana Abril Arias, who oversaw the delivery said that it was certainly one of the most memorable deliveries of their career. It's interesting thinking about how the twins will lead their lives after they've made such a remarkable entrance.

Twins often feel like they are in competition with one another, in an attempt to build their own identity and feel unique. Now they can have birthday parties a day apart and really feel like, despite their connection as twins, they're both still unique individuals.

Twins Make For Only 3% Of American Births

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According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), there are typically 120,000 twin births every year in the United States. The births make up just over 3 percent of all births, however, which is a considerably small percentage. Their uniqueness allows them to tap into abilities that help them form really strong bonds. They sometimes can even tap into abilities that the average person can't access. For instance, 40% of twins invent their own languages, some even say that they can almost read each other's minds. This could be due to the fact that twins start interacting in the womb at 14 weeks.

However, they also hold their differences. In fact, Identical twins have different fingerprints and twins can even have completely different skin tones.

Stranger Things Can Happen

The year is just beginning and yet newborn babies made headlines within seconds of coming into this world. It puts into perspective how quickly someone's existence can make an impact, and how simple that impact can be. This year, ask yourself how you can make your mark, and watch its ripple effects.

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