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5 Differences Between Toxic and True Love

There are some clear differences between true love and toxic love, we all know this, but sometimes we have a hard time identifying exactly what those differences are.

Here are 5 specific differences between a true, real love, and a toxic relationship.

1. In true love, self love and improvement is top priority.

Your partner should want you to be the best version of yourself and have the best opportunities to achieve self-actualization, and you should want the same for them.

You should want what is best for each other more than anything.

In toxic love, absolutely all of the focus is on the relationship itself and how it defines the both of you.

There is no room for self improvement or introspection because the two of you can't untangle yourselves from each other.

This is a negative perspective and hinders personal growth in a big way.

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2. In true love, it's perfectly alright to have separate interests, hobbies and passions.

It's okay to have your own friends that aren't mutual acquaintances, or to leave and do things separately from time to time.

There is no fear of retribution for spending time apart or doing something outside of the relationship.

In toxic love, no one is allowed to have a life outside of the other.

Everything must be done together, or else jealousy and dejection come into the picture.

This is unhealthy codependency and cannot sustain itself. It will cause resentment and probably damage a lot of friendships.

3. In true love, it isn't difficult to embrace and love your partner for all of their oddities and flaws.

They are unique in good and sometimes not so good ways, but you should have no problem accepting and loving them for all of it.

In toxic love, you or your partner may obsess constantly over changing you into what they believe you should be.

Someone who is easier to love or be with. Someone who will bend to their criticisms and alter themselves for "love".

4. In true love, intimacy is a deep and poignant bond that has been cultivated and carefully nurtured over time.

It grows from true friendship and connection and cannot be feigned. In toxic love, sex is something connoted with fear, shame or worry.

You spend all of your intimate encounters trying to be the perfect fantasy for your partner and not enjoying yourself. You feel pressured and insecure about your body and behavior.

5. In true love, all conversations have a beneficial goal.

Even discussions about frustrations should be calm and come from a place of caring and love.

In toxic love, conversations often devolve into arguments or blame contests.

Many conversations that seem positive and loving at first are really just manipulative ploys to get you to do something they want or give them something.

Yelling is an unfortunately common occurrence.

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Psychology Defines 7 Types Of Love, Yet Only A Rare Few Make It To The Last One

Psychologists have confirmed the average person will experience different types of love through their lives. A study has even shown that a person can fall in love at least three times in their lifetime. Howevr, the type of love that they experience often depends on the one they share it with. Some people bring out deep emotions that cause a whirlwind of a romance, which is sometimes toxic. Others, turn out to be nothing more than companions and are better off as friendships.

However, rare are the people who gets the experience the kind of love that truly feels everlasting, fulfilling and healthy. Find out which kind of love we mean and which type of love your current kind of love falls into

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Infuatuation

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This is the first step of all relationships but it remains on a shallow level. It's usually a fine line between lust and love and infatuation never usually makes it past the lust and into a meaningful connection. Yet, infatuation is often disguised as love and can be confusing.

The more both parties are physically attracted to each other, the more they want to spend all of their time together and move a relationship really quickly from the get-go. However, this kind of relationship is usually short-lived. When relationships get too intense, too quickly, they don't tend to take the time to build a solid enough foundation to grow on, and many of the red flags just get brushed off only to come back later.

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Liking

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This is usually the second stage of a relationship. Once we decide that we are attracted enough to someone, we become open to getting to know them better. From there, the more we get to know them, the more feelings are developed based on what we know. This is still an introductory stage to relationships, because the more layers are peeled, the higher the risk of finding some sort of dealbreaker that ends the relationship there.

During this stage either feelings will develop closer to love, and increase passion or commitment, or they will eventually fade and grow closer to a friendship It all depends on shared values, interests, and needs.

Empty Love

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This is a tricky kind of relationship. On one hand, it is an exclusive relationship with an agreed-upon commitment. Couples experiencing this type of love could spend years on end together but still lack intimacy and passion. They may truly enjoy each other's company and care deeply about one another but still be missing that special spark that makes everything come together.

Over time the relationship becomes comfortable but boring. It's not necessarily that anyone is doing anything wrong, but there is no denying that the relationship is just missing something to make it feel passionate and exciting.

Fatuous Love

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This is the most common type of love as it includes two of the three foundations: commitment and passion. Couples often find that enough to pursue their relationship and exchange their vows. Yet, this kind of relationship despite having attraction lacks true intimacy.

These kinds of relationships go through many ups ad downs, they have their good days but they also have the days where they feel like they're not truly happy or like their needs aren't being fully met. This could be due to differing love languages or because the couple isn't able to reach a high enough level of vulnerability to fully give themselves to someone else.

Romantic Love

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This kind of love has another combination of the three pillars of love: passion and intimacy. The feelings are there and so is the attraction. Couples in this kind of relationship feel really close to one another and it's easy for them to open up. They fall deeply in love, rather quickly and naturally. The only problem is they can't necessarily agree on where the relationship is headed so they just brush it off.

They put off serious commitments hoping to just go with the flow and figure the rest out in time. Unfortunately in many instances, the relationship reaches a termination point because of major commitments that can't be agreed on.

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Companionate Love

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Companionate love consists of commitment and intimacy, another combination that is still lacking. This type of love is somewhere between the line of friendship and love. There is somewhat of an attraction that makes the friendship feel stronger but it's mostly due to the strong bond that's shared. This kind of couple is each other's best friend, They trust each other fully, and are able to be completely themselves.

The attraction is there and the love is genuine but it's missing that head over heels super-in-love kind of feeling. Many relationships develop into this kind of love after many years of marriage.

Consummate Love

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This is the ideal kind of love and yet it is the rarest of all. It is made of all the pillars of the perfect relationship: love passion, emotional and physical intimacy, and commitment. The levels of each vary throughout time but there is enough of each to keep the relationship young even after years of commitment. Arguments are resolved peacefully, affection is given freely and plans of the future are carried out.

These couples are just as in love as the day they met during their final days. They find ways to keep their relationships exciting and keep on surprising one another. They never allow themselves to truly get comfortable and stop appreciating what they have. They trust each other fully while still pursuing their own independence.

Healthy Love

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All that matters in love is that you are happy and the love is healthy. The rest can be developed and worked on with the right person. In any relationship, always look at how you feel and ask yourself: does this person make you love yourself more? Do you want to grow old with them?

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