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A Psychological Trick To Instantly Become More Desirable

"If there's a verb that comes with desire, it is to want."

As Esther Perel once said in The Secret to Desire in a Long-Term Relationship Ted talk "If there's a verb that comes with desire, it is to want." So the question is what makes a person want something? We don't just wake up waning a certain kind of person. Much of what and who we're attracted to is built-in years of conditioning and tailored preferences.

But what if understanding that meant that we could also use it to our advantage? Understanding what makes a person want something is how you become more desirable to them. Let us explain how.

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Attraction Is Just Like Drugs

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The reason why some people become addicted to certain substances is that they release dopamine in the brain. Dopamine is experienced as a rush of euphoria or pure intense peasure. It leads to momentariy arousal and motivation.

Except dopamine effects are short lived leaving the brain wanting more, so it keeps chasing it. They call this the dopamine-seeking reward loop and it's a lot like being attracted to someone. When you experience attraction, you brain releases dopamine making that person feel like a drug to you. You feel great around them but you chase them trying to replicate the euphoria all the time such as by constantly trying to get their attenion.

There's A Secret To Replicating Pleasure

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Knowing that first part is critical to understand how to use it to make yourself seem instantly more desirable. When it comes to inducing dopamine into someone, you need a combination of two requirements.

First, you need them to experience a pleasurable experience when first around you so that they think about it and anticipate it, or in other words, crave the dopamine that they associated with you. Second, you need to make them wonder whether they'll ever be able to see you again and live that experience once more. The uncertainty that their brain attaches to seeing you will create a bigger dopamine release.

It Keeps Them Coming Back For More

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Ever wonder how casinos get people who have already declared bankruptcy coming back for more. What is love if it's not just a big game?

While we do not encourage the forming of an addiction, it's hard to deny the similarities between feelings of love and attraction and the chemicals released by cravings and uncertainties.

The Trick Is Entirely Psychological

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What it comes down to is that for whatever reason, people are wired to want what they can't have, or what they think they will never be able to have again. As soon as the brain realizes that there's a risk of missing out on some kind of special resource, it gets desperetae for it.

Because we're scared to miss out, we find the people and things that are about to flee to be much more attractive and valuable. That's why as soon as two people break up, they want each other more than ever,

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Desire Is Created

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Think of how anxious you get when you've gone out with someone you like and are desperately waiting to hear again from them to confirm that they like you enough to want to see you again. The longer they take to reach out to you, the more the anticipation builds and you want to hear from them even more desperately. Some people at this stage will start overnalayzing every detail of their interactions to reassure themselves.

Then when you finally hear from them, the dopamine is instantly released and you feel excited and relieved. But as soon as you respond, the dopmine fades and you start craving it again while you wait for the next response. This is why it is crucial to keep relationships exciting at all stages. As soon as all unfamiliarity and uncertainty fade, so does the appeal. .

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Remember That Just Because You Can, Doesn't Mean You Should

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At the end of day remember that there is a limit to everything. The message should be to create excitement, change and adventure in your relationships as to appear more desirable, not to play games. This can be done by trying new experiences together or surprising them with a new outfit, or cooking dinner when they don't expect it, not by withdrawing affection and manipulation.

Understand that creating scarcity isn't easy. It's hard work just like all aspects of a relationship. It's just a matter of knowing how to create instances of dopamine release througha reward loop.

Know When Love Crosses The Line

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In any relationship, always look at how you feel and ask yourself: does this person make you love yourself more? Do you want to grow old with them?

Love is more than just kisses and butterflies, it's much more than that. If you want to know more on what your birth chart reveals about how you love and what you need out of a partner, check out this personalized report based on date of birth.

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Astrology

The Strength Each Zodiac Finds When Grieving A Loss

Grief happens in different stages and there's not necessarily a right or wrong way to deal with it. Some people can't face it right away and keep themselves distracted while others spend the first couple of weeks crying in bed thinking that they'll never feel better.

Grief isn't only felt death. They say that a break up activates the same pain receptors and stress hormones experienced when a loved one dies, so grief is really about any kind of loss for someone or even something like a job that was valued. It can have lasting effects that become traumatic when coping is not eventually dealt with in a healthy way. Luckily, each zodiac sign has character traits that give them a unique strength when dealing with grief. What's yours?

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Aries: Their Straighforwadness

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Aries doesn't care to sugarcoat and avoid the hard truth. They prefer to act in the heat in the moment and cut right down to the chase. You know that when Aries go for a night out, they won't be shy away from their dancing their heart out. They take that same explosive energy wherever they go. When they're grieving, that's all they feel and they let themselves face it head-on until they can come to terms with it.

They may feel a lot of anger at first or a lot of sadness, and they may not deal with that component calmly but having the strength to be straightforward about their grief is what helps them let the feelings pass and move on.

Taurus: An Ability To Escape

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A Taurus likely won't grief right away and try to keep their chin up. They might even try to console others first because the distraction helps them escape. When they're not helping others, they're going to want to disappear for a while, taking themselves on solo dates and watching movie marathons. They'll basically do anything to distract themselves and escape the pain.

However, their ability to escape is also their strength. It gives them a reason to keep going and eases them into adapting to a life without the person they lost gradually.

Gemini: Seeing The Good

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Gemini will do their best to resist their grief. They would rather stay positive to cope. However, the more they avoid what's really on their mind, the more likely they are to be moody. However, when they chose to accept grief, they manage to always find a silver lining.

Their strength is in choosing to celebrate a person's life instead of mourning their death. To them, the end is not a loss because if they never had it in the first place they would have missed out on a lot.

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Cancer: Emotional Intuition

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​Cancers have the ability to be completely in tune with their emotions. They wear their hearts on their sleeves and it's no different when they're grieving. They are not afraid to let themselves cry it out from the second it happens even if they're not sure if they could ever stop.

Cancers' intense emotion is their strength. They're able to manifest them into whatever channel they desire which means that when they get through the painful part, they'll go through the healing with the same intensity.

Leo: Coping Internally

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Leo doesn't feel the need to have a pity party and crying circles. Odds are they won't show their pain publicly but that doesn't mean that they're not dealing with it.

Leo's strength is in coping in the way that feels best to them in the moment, privately. They're not looking to repeat what works for others, they want to find what works for them. They spend a lot of time analyzing exactly what is making them sad and lean deeply into their emotions.

Virgo: Order And Logic

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Virgo can't come easily in terms of loss and death because they can't completely make sense of it. Their need for logic and order and can make them feel completely out of control when grieving. However, it is that same need for control that makes their strength.

Once they get through the initial shock, they ground themselves by creating their how-to guide for coping. They make step by steps lists of how to heal and keep busy with to-do lists meant to help them grieve in orderly ways.

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Libra: Rationality

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When Libra deals with grief, it can become more rational than usual. Libra is able to accept loss and death as unavoidable parts of life so it sees no point in fighting it. Instead, it spends its energy on adapting to a new life without what it is that it lost.

While sometimes Libra takes extreme measures by completely erasing parts of their lives that held the memory of what they lost, their strength is becoming a self-containing equalizer of emotions. Eventually, they even out their grief too.

Scorpio: Manipulation Through Empathy

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​When we hear the word "manipulation" we tend to think of its negative connotation. But manipulation by definition is an ability to purposely mold. For Scorpios, manipulation isn't just getting what they want out of others. When grieving, they're able to manipulate their sadness with intention.

This comes in different forms. For instance, by spending time with animals, children, or loved ones, they're able to manipulate feelings of protection and love that heal both themselves and those around them.

Sagittarius: The Hunt For Happiness

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​Saggitarius is driven by a genuine desire to find happiness. When they're first grieving they may feel lost and helpless as they no longer see a path to happiness.

Yet eventually their ambition kicks in and fuels them with the desire to fight their pain. They don't avoid their emotions and instead try to find ways to turn the negative ones into positive ones and be as happy as possible until they can become fully happy again.

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Capricorn: Maturity

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Capricorn tries to be mature about the way they handle grief, and finds it unhelpful to spend days in bed or to get angry. As an earth sign they feel connected to a higher being and can see the bigger picture.

They understand that loss will hurt for a while but that with time they will get past it, so they do their best to go through the motions until then, each day becoming easier than the last, until they're fully themselves again.

Aquarius: Living Back Memories

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Capricorns don't need external validation and motivation because they find it within themselves. They know the difference between what they can and can't control. They know they can't control a loss but they know that no one can take away the memories they created before they no longer could. So they chose to focus on what they can do.

They keep memories alive through pictures. They reconnect with people from their childhood or they pick up passions they left behind. This way, they connect back with themselves instead of caving to the loss.

Pisces: Just Keeps Swimming

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Pisces just need to be reminded that no matter what happens and how bad it is, the world keeps going and so they need to be able to keep up with it. Usually, they can get to this stage before falling down a spiral. Instead, they chose to lose themselves in ways that feel beautiful to them.

They chose to keep swimming. They indulge in self-care methods like watching movies or spending quality time with others. Their strength is in jump-starting their healing process and their motivation to keep moving forward.

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