Relationships

According To Psychiatrists, Couples Who Argue Actually Love Each Other More

You may be thinking to yourself how can arguing possibly be an essential element to a successful relationship? Well, according to psychiatrist, Dr. Gail Saltz, describes that arguing can be a very rewarding experience between two people as they express their different points of view, their feelings, and their individualism.

Sure, we all go through the honeymoon phase of our relationships and once that part begins to fade away we suddenly start to understand how the other one tries to compromise, introduce improvements to the relationship, and we learn a lot from what the other has to say.


Dr. Saltz also mentions that in order to have constructive arguments in your relationship you must first master these five aspects before you go into any kind of fight with your partner:

Don't say anything that you're going to immediately regret, make sure that you stick to the topic that is being discussed, be sure that you are listening to the others words carefully, speak honestly once you feel anger boiling inside you, and you don't always have to be right because it's more than okay to admit when you are wrong.

It's important to recognize when you are your partner are no longer having constructive arguments with each other: If both of you end up leaving the conversation angrier than you were before you entered into it then this means that you both should work on managing your tempers.

You must be willing to see the other person's point of view, how they feel, what they expect, and what they want to do in order to achieve happiness again. It's also important to realize when either one of you is too angry to even communicate.

You both must be extremely level headed before going into a fight with each other, otherwise you'll see very quickly just how self-destructive that kind of demeanor can be.

It's more than okay to be upset, however, yelling, vulgar language, and anything else that may hurt your partner mentally or physically is going to have dire consequences the minute you unleash your rage upon them.

Try to remember why you both are even having to argue in the first place, try to realize that this is a problem that needs to be addressed sooner rather than later, and do your best to see their side of the argument.

What it all really boils down to is the both of you being able to communicate, find compromises, still be in love with each other, and being as honest as you possibly can.

Arguing gets you nowhere if neither of you are willing to learn from each other. Dr. Pam Spurr who is a relationship expert explains that couples who argue are extremely passionate for one another because:

"The way in which you argue signals so much about a relationship. The wise couple acknowledges this and keeps an eye on how they treat each other over disagreements. Subconsciously, bickering demonstrates you care about each other even if while bickering you feel annoyed towards your partner. For instance, it shows that you do want your partner to drink less and look after their health. Or you do want them to be on time so that neither of you are stressed out when you have places to be and things to do, etc."

Hopefully this has given you a little bit of insight on how to have a constructive argument with your partner. Remember to be as open as you possibly can be, listen carefully, and be willing to find compromises. Love isn't perfect but you both can at least try to understand each other on how you both can make it work out.


Horoscopes

This Week's Horoscope Turns Thoughts Into Action, Here's How Each Zodiac Harnesses Its Energy

November 29- December 5

Brought to you by our friend Kelli Fox at Astrology.TV

There are a lot of constructive vibes around this week, and a whole lot of idealism too. The week begins with a potent Mars-Neptune trine on Monday, which encourages us to put some of our grand ideas into action.

We get back up on this task on Tuesday, with sextiles from the Sun and Mercury to practical Saturn, and from socially facilitating Venus to Neptune. Harnessing these energies means we can move forward constructively as well as find backing from our teams, colleagues, friends, and families.

The weekend may be a different matter, however – the Solar Eclipse in Sagittarius promises shocks in the system, especially related to issues of justice, fairness, or freedom.

Take a quick zodiac reading here to find out what the universe has to say about you right now.

Aries

You know what you want to do to improve the world, Aries, but you've always hesitated to take action on that. On Monday, the Mars-Neptune trine could be the push you've been waiting for, as you realize that your ideas and ideals can make a difference after all.

Tuesday is a particularly good day for getting moving with this. Get others on board with help from the Sun/Mercury-Saturn sextile, and fine-tune your career towards a more altruistic purpose with help from the Venus-Neptune sextile.

Saturday's Solar Eclipse prompts you to expand your horizons. You've been taking too narrow a view of life. Seek new views, learn new philosophies, visit new lands, meet new people. Change comes through many minds working together.

Taurus

This week, you're inspired to create common goals with your partner – or with those closest to you, if you're single – and to work together on something which matters to your soul. The Mars-Neptune trine on Monday is particularly inspirational for this.

On Tuesday, the Sun/Mercury-Saturn sextile grows your confidence, while the Venus-Neptune sextile helps you to get support from your wider network or community for the ideals you're trying to share.

Look to Saturday's Solar Eclipse, however, for some boundary setting. You may have been too forceful in your dealings with others, or perhaps you've allowed others to behave inappropriately with you. That has to stop.

Gemini

Focus on finding ways to improve your efficiency at work, or the ease and comfort in which you can do your job. You have many ideas for how to improve things, especially on Monday when Mars trines Neptune – some of them are a bit 'far out', perhaps, but it could be that their time has come!

You'll get plenty of backup on Tuesday from your partner, courtesy of a helpful Sun/Mercury-Saturn sextile, and you can also expect favorable reactions from authority figures, with the Venus-Neptune sextile helping your persuasive skills.

Saturday's Solar Eclipse occurs in your love zone – this could bring a shock or revelation about a partner, but it's likely to impact your own personal growth in a positive manner.

Take a quick zodiac reading here to find out what the universe has to say about you right now.

Cancer

You've been feeling stifled and restricted recently, and this is the week to work on getting out of that rut. When Mars trines Neptune on Monday, you'll feel inspired to travel, to shake up your routines, to learn something new or to otherwise create new avenues of freedom for yourself.

Everyday practicalities that have previously stood in your way may start to dissolve on Tuesday, courtesy of helpful sextiles to Saturn, and you'll also sense that you have the full support of your sweetheart.

Look to Saturday's Solar Eclipse for a significant event or moment that underscores your need to break free – and which gives you the impetus to finally do so.

Leo

Family matters get a dose of healing and compassion this week, especially on Monday when Mars trines Neptune and encourages much better mutual understanding and forgiveness.

This provides a sense of relief and celebration, especially on Tuesday, when the Sun and Mercury sextile Saturn, allowing joy to flow through your relationship, and when Venus sextiles Neptune, freeing up more time for you to spend with your lover.

Saturday's Solar Eclipse occurs in your risk zone and encourages you to take a leap of faith. This is a very good time for treating fears and phobias, and for allowing your emotions to spill out freely – don't hold anything back.

Virgo

There's a real sense of partnership in your relationship this week, with you both working together as a strong team and towards a shared purpose. The lovely Mars-Neptune trine on Monday underscores this and points towards a shared spiritual understanding too.

The Sun/Mercury-Saturn sextile on Tuesday shares responsibilities with your loved ones and improves your ability to delegate, while the Venus-Neptune sextile the same day adds a lovely big dose of romance and magic – what's not to love about that?

On Saturday, however, the Solar Eclipse falls in your family zone. You are being asked now to spend more time with your family, prioritizing domestic matters over work. See what you can do to make this happen.

Take a quick zodiac reading here to find out what the universe has to say about you right now.

Libra

This is a week when you should start to see financial rewards for all of your recent hard work. The Mars-Neptune trine on Monday activates your money zone as well as your work zone, so keep pushing forwards and following your dreams.

Improved communication on Tuesday will help with getting what you want, boosted by the Sun/Mercury sextile to Saturn. Meanwhile, family backup is also strong, as mirrored by the Venus-Neptune sextile the same day. People really are on your side.

The Solar Eclipse on Saturday challenges you to keep an open mind about a controversial subject; try to avoid speaking out on topics where you don't really know much about the background. Use it as an opportunity to learn.

Scorpio

You've known for some time that you need to focus more on the joy in your life – Monday's Mars-Neptune trine will help you do just that. Your priority this week should be things that make you smile, laugh, feel alive and feel vibrant.

You may have the opportunity to do something special on Tuesday, when the Sun/Mercury sextile to Saturn gives a financial push, and the Venus-Neptune sextile hints at magical experiences. Say yes to whatever life offers.

The Solar Eclipse on Saturday occurs in your money zone and may hold some shocks and surprises if you have been reckless with your finances. Pay attention to your personal security around this time too, and don't take chances.

Sagittarius

This is a very spiritual week for you, Sagittarius, and on Monday especially you will feel drawn to meditation, divination, psychic insights, mediumship and past life regression. As Mars trines Neptune, all of these things have much wisdom to offer you.

You'll want to learn too, and Tuesday's Sun/Mercury-Saturn sextile gives you the opportunity to do so. As Venus sextiles Neptune the same day, you may also find a way to earn money through your spiritual gifts, although you should be careful to maintain the highest of intentions.

The Solar Eclipse in Sagittarius on Saturday is a significant moment for you, and it speaks to your very identity and the way you choose to move forward in life. You have some important decisions to make.

Take a quick zodiac reading here to find out what the universe has to say about you right now.

Capricorn

Friendships are set to be important this week, and you will especially love meeting new people who gel with you intellectually. When Mars trines Neptune on Monday, it's also a good time for meeting people who can work with you towards a common cause, whether that's political, charitable or local.

There's a spiritual element to your group interactions too, most likely on Tuesday when the Sun/Mercury-Saturn sextile shows how you share values with other like-minded souls and the Venus-Neptune sextile activates the spiritual elements of your identity.

It's perhaps unsurprising then that the Solar Eclipse on Saturday in your spiritual zone may mark a turning point in your spiritual understanding. Open your heart and mind to new possibilities.

Aquarius

Give your ambitions free reign this week, because the cosmic vibes are lining up to support your success. On Monday, the Mars-Neptune trine is very promising, particularly if you want to work in a creative or artistic field, or if financial rewards for your efforts have been a long time coming.

On Tuesday you should find that the Sun/Mercury-Saturn sextile provides strong support from friends or your work-based team and the Venus-Neptune sextile the same day highlights money coming in from an imaginative or unusual direction.

The Solar Eclipse, however, occurs in your community zone on Saturday. Try to blend your very reasonable desire for material success with your deeper humanitarian desire for a better society. How can you work towards both these goals? There is a way.

Pisces

New experiences beckon this week if you can step out of your comfort zone. Look to the Mars-Neptune trine on Monday to provide you with the confidence you need. Anything involving travel or outdoor adventure will be particularly good at showing you what you can do.

Sextiles from the Sun/Mercury to Saturn and to Neptune from Venus also play their part on Tuesday, giving you support and encouragement from friends and loved ones and reminding you that you're much more capable than you think.

Indeed, the Solar Eclipse in your status zone on Saturday may bring about a mini-crisis of some kind that puts you in the spotlight – but this will serve to teach you that you are a strong, capable individual, who does not need to fear anything. Go for it!

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