You're Not Shy... You're A Highly Sensitive Person And That's Not A Bad Thing
Highly sensitive people (HSP) are a misunderstood and vital part of our world. Modern society has a tendency of mislabeling them, under rating their skills and qualities.
The fact remains that while they are different from the rest of the population, everyone benefits from this diversity. The struggle is in overcoming the restraints society enforces.
Have you been told that you're shy, even though you aren't? How many times have you been teased for being too sensitive? Can you easily and accurately read a person's body language so well, you know what they are thinking about? Are you not comfortable around large crowds? Do non-genuine people make you cringe?
If you answered yes to any of those question, there is a high possibility that you are an HSP. Take a more exact test here. Fitting in has always been a bit of a challenge for you. Well you aren't alone, an estimated 15-20 percent of the population are considered HSP. While you may not immediately fit in with the regular crowd, your role is crucial to the social and spiritual development of the general population.
Besides being mislabeled shy, slow witted, weak, or uncharismatic, HSPs can often feel depressed because of the disconnect and judgment caused by their gifts. Don't give the misrepresentations any power. 30 percent of HSPs are actually extroverts!
The brain of an HSP is wired differently than others, they consider and reason out possible actions before they commit. You aren't necessarily shy or slow, you are respectful and thoughtful. Have faith in your distinct traits and abilities. Love yourself for your differences and always respect yourself.
You have many gifts, most are subtle or hidden. It is up to you to reaffirm yourself worth and nurture your talents. Common HSP talents include:
- HSPs are sensitive to the physical world, seeing and distinguishing many differences in color, shade, and texture.
- They are more apt at abstract reasoning and logical thought.
- Highly empathetic, HSPs easily relate to and understand others. Without strong self assurance and self love, it can be hard for them to respond to raw emotions, as they have a magnified perception.
- Highly developed voice and perception, HSPs are very creative and great problem solvers.
HSPs are the part of society that tempers bravery with wisdom, encourages understanding over war, propagates the arts and helps society as a whole stay connected and united. HSP gifts are only hindered in high stimulus environments. They can help nurture the emotional and spiritual well being of our community, if we empower them and stay open to suggestion.
To learn how to use your gifts more thoroughly consider getting The Highly Sensitive Person's Workbook by Dr. Aron. Dr. Aron is a nationally recognized HSP specialist. The exercises inside help an HSP develop and grow in today's society. You can also take steps on your own to protect your gifts and cope with daily events:
- Eat and sleep regularly, this seems obvious but you will get drained faster than others so you need to keep up your strength.
- You do your best work in solitude, so if you work in an open office, invest in noise canceling headphones.
- Don't overfill your schedule, be sure to leave time to reflect, decompress and recuperate.
- Spend as much time in nature as you can. Even if it's just a walk through the park, you will be rejuvenated and inspired.
- Seek counseling or the HSP Workbook. Both can provide tips and methods for maximizing your efforts and streamlining your socialization.