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If You Met Again With Your Ex Now, How Would Things Be Different?

A Little Bit Older, A Little Bit Wiser

People get back together with their ex all of the times. Sometimes it works out and they are able to grow and solve their detrimental issues enough to live happily. For others, THEYsimply crave comfort and fall back into old habits. The reasons may be dependant on why they broke up in the first but regardless, research suggests the amount of couples who break up and get back together is as high as 50%.

So if it was up to you, and you met your ex all over again, how would things have changed? Here are 6 most important factors you should consider when answering this question.

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A Little Bit Older, A Little Bit Wiser

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The older we get the more that life teaches us the hard way the lessons that help us define who we want to be and who we want to be with. The relationships we get to while we're young aren't always a reflection of what we need and they often become toxic because we don't even know yet what it is that we want to get out of it.

When reuniting with an ex years later, we know how to better handle conflicts, we've developed more patience, we've learned our needs and how to ask for them and we have more of the tools to make a relationship work.

Circumstances Change

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Sometimes relationships don't fail because anyone did anything wrong but simply because they happened at the wrong place, at the wrong time. There's no denying of the toll that circumstances can have on relationships. Between financial needs, pursuit of jobs, a desire to travel, or whatever it may, sometimes those things need to be figured out alone first before two people can come together and share one life and that's okay.

It's possible that by the time you meet an ex again, you've finally gotten what you needed to do on your own first out of the way and your new circumstances would allow for the both of you to better get along.

Time Heals

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​Breakups are never easy but they're especially hard when one person has betrayed the other. The level of hurt this causes can feel like it will never heal. you may think you'd never forgive an ex or want anything to do with them, only to discover that as time went on, you stopped caring and you let it go.

If you've reached a place of forgiveness, and your ex has truly shown remorse and growth, then things could change between the two of you. Maybe you'll be able to fit each other back into your new lives after all.

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Comfort Is Appealing

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​It's a lot of work to open up to a person on such a vulnerable level that they get to know your deepest darkest secrets and can read you like a book. For some, this is an incredibly comforting feeling but they can only find the strength to open themselves up to that level so many times. each time it backfires, they build up a higher wall to protect themselves.

When meeting an ex again, there's no need to introduce yourself. They already know you to your core, with the good and the bad, and that can feel good. Whatever the outcome, it's always appealing to be around those who know us because we can be completely ourselves around them.

The Big "What Ifs"

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When you finally meet an again, you're likely going to be faced with a lot of " what if" questions, like "what if they've really changed? " what if they haven't?" "what if you let them back in" ' what if this is just a waste of time"

The only way to answer these questions will be with second chances, to let them play out for themselves. Or, to walk away once again, knowing you're happier now without them and have already walked away once for a reason. Now that you've considered the factors of change, which would you chose?

Just Beware Of Picking Up Where You Left Off

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Before you reignite contact with an ex, make sure that you don't just pick up where you left off because that will solve nothing. Things will seem good at first but you'll just fall back into the old cycles, no matter how much times have changed. For a relationship with an, on any level, to be better when meeting again, it also needs to change. In any relationship, always look at how you feel and ask yourself: does this person make you love yourself more? Do you want to grow old with them?

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Uplifting

The World's Oldest Person Just Turned 119, But What's Fascinating Is How She Spends Her Days

The oldest person in the world just recently celebrated her 119th birthday in a nursing home in southwestern Japan. Now if you're picturing an immobile old lady who does nothing bt spend her days in bed, think again. This woman may be at the end of her days, but she is still full of life.

The way that she spends her every day should be an inspiration to all of us that we're never too old to put in the effort everyday to live it to the fullest. After all, what's the point in living if we don't actually feel alive? Here's how she does it.

She Has Watched The Whole World Change

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When you've lived almost a century and a quarter long, you're bound to probably feel like you're in your own science fiction movie by the end. The world has drastically changed over the years. When Kane Tanaka was born, in 1903 in Japan, life was much simpler. This was the same year that the Wright brothers powered their first flight. Kane grew up around her nine siblings before she married a rice shop owner when she turned 19 years old.

Since then she has lived through wonders including two world wars, two pandemics, the rise of technologies, and more life changes than we could possibly imagine.

Today, Her Routine Is Quite Unique

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​Just because she has lived a long and meaningful life, doesn't mean that she's done living each day to the fullest. What's really fascinating about Kane's long life is the way that she chooses to live every day.

It turns out that even at her nursing home, Kane wakes up every morning bright and early at 6 a.m. and spends part of her day studying mathematics. She keeps her mind sharp and alert by spending the day solving number puzzles and playing board games. She has gotten so good at this that in 2019, she became an expert in the game of Othello, a strategy board game, even beating the nursing home's younger staff.

She Has Broken New Records

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Kane is now part of the Guinness World Records and has been since turned 117 and became Japan's oldest living person. On her birthday, Guinness even tweeted her a happy birthday and shared a video of her from 2019, when she was officially given the title.

Unfortunately, while Kane has adapted to much of the modern world, she hasn't made it as far as setting her own Twitter account to reply. Nonetheless, everyone who saw the tweet was inspired by her will to live as well as the way she chooses to live.

She's Got The Right Attitude

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Tanaka sounds like a delightful woman who emits all kinds of positive vibes. Her personality exceeds her intelligence and love for math because just like the average person, Tanaka also shares a strong love for fizzy drinks and chocolate. In fact, when she was gifted a box of chocolates during her Guinness ceremony, someone asked her how many chocolates she wanted to eat, she replied, "100." And why shouldn't she? When you've lived that long there is no reason not to indulge and maximize life's little pleasures.

Tanaka carried the same attitude when she was crowned Japan's oldest person at 117 and celebrated with a coke. Tanaka's positivity is radiant and comes across in all her gestures. When she was sent flowers on Respect for the Aged Day, she expressed her gratitude by making a peace sign.

Maybe Chocolate Is The Key

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Tanaka has another three years to go until she breaks the all-time record for the oldest person that has lived, which right now is held by Jeanne Louise Calment from France, who lived to 122 years. Currently, she holds the record for the world's oldest currently living person since Jeanne has since passed.

What's interesting about these two women is their love for their chocolate. They say that Jeanne ate two pounds of chocolate a week! Could chocolate be the new fountain of youth? The answer is probably in how these two women carried themselves in their youth and the way they're able to see the good in the everyday. However, Japan is known to hold one of the longevity rates in the world which have increased significantly in the last 60 years.

How Much Longer Do You Have left?

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​No matter how old or young you are in this moment, you are still alive for a reason. Make every moment count, have no regrets. Live every day to the fullest and find within it a reason to be happy. If you're still looking for a purpose, take a quick zodiac reading here to find out what your universe has to say about you right now.

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